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yuri03 said:
Yes, we had a wonderful conversion with that.
the things i found are:
1. his conversation with guy who want to share his wife.
2. twitter DM with escorts or NTR guys.
i see he trying to book them.

His excuse is like these.
1. i was betting with that guy try to see whether he is real or not.
2. online me is just a fake. it's porn to me. booking was a false promise to soothing that poor girl since she couldn't get any client that date.

He promise he wont use any site like this or twitter.

I love him and try my best to understand so badly but this is so hard to understand for me. Most of part i believe what he saying though im suffering as well, thinking about that he may have urge to seeking other girls unconsciously.

Only i can imagine is i just order or get a girl for him which he said he don't want it.

I am tired to hear apologize or detail motivation which is out of any sense.

Could you why he act like this with any guy view?
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Those are bad excuses.
If they were true he would have essentially wasted everyone’s time. Both the couple and the provider would have blocked time off in their schedules to meet him and he would have pulled a no show.. those are the worst kind of people.

This might be just a game for him but this is serious for some people and he is harming their livelihood in the case of providers, and in the case of the couple, also precious time would be wasted.
It’s coward behavior and it doesn’t excuse what he did at all. Even if he wasn’t planning to physically cheat on you he still played emotional games with everyone involved for his own pleasure.

Only you can decide how to proceed with the relationship and which things are acceptable to you and which are not. I don’t know if people on here can explain his behavior. Either he is a player and is different from the majority of posters here (thankfully), or he is like the other people here and tries to cover it with weak excuses, but I don’t know if anyone here could say something that makes him seem more redeemable.
 
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Alice said:
Those are bad excuses.
If they were true he would have essentially wasted everyone’s time. Both the couple and the provider would have blocked time off in their schedules to meet him and he would have pulled a no show.. those are the worst kind of people.

This might be just a game for him but this is serious for some people and he is harming their livelihood in the case of providers, and in the case of the couple, also precious time would be wasted.
It’s coward behavior and it doesn’t excuse what he did at all. Even if he wasn’t planning to physically cheat on you he still played emotional games with everyone involved for his own pleasure.

Only you can decide how to proceed with the relationship and which things are acceptable to you and which are not. I don’t know if people on here can explain his behavior. Either he is a player and is different from the majority of posters here (thankfully), or he is like the other people here and tries to cover it with weak excuses, but I don’t know if anyone here could say something that makes him seem mo
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that's true. he did not book exact time (i will meet you when i go back to tokyo bla)
but true that he makes waste of people times.
About talking with Ntr people in twitter and here, he saying that he was trolling. which i dont understand what it is exactly means. . he saying he tried to test him how he can go far(???) if he exactly sending his wife photo (??)he also said this site has troll or liar? so manager(??) asked him to do test them figure out which one is it.

he said that it is similar to me texting to my ex he said but idk. . . i always talking to him when i got any text from guys(most of it just booty call) so i show him im not doing anything from his back.
maybe i should have block or not texting back ??

i dont know. . he saying he didn't try any physical affair. just playing or trying to help.

i may sounds calm in text but not at all in real life, he is suffering as well (sleeping in floor etc )😂😂

thank you for your opinion, it is really helpful.

i will try my best. 😊 have a good day
 
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yuri03 said:
sometimes i get text from my ex or somewhat guys.
some of them are just wandering my recent, some of them just a booty calling.
i do reply back that im not available or ignore, depending on individual.
we married very recent.
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Was pondering why you never got back to me, now I know.
 
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Sounds like you are not together for many years, and you said that you married very recently.
It's probably not unsatisfied sex drive in a long marriage or a relationship.
Feels like you should expect more of this behavior from him..

I also must say that accepting (not blocking) and replying to booty call texts is weird in relationship, unless that your sex game.
In general, you should push for honest and open communication between the two of you, about all the needs, and wants, and other feelings...
 
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I also must say that accepting (not blocking) and replying to booty call texts is weird in relationship, unless that your sex game.
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Well, one is looking for girls in TAG, the other one is replying to booty calls from an ex. This is a match made in heavens!
 
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newbie said:
I accidentally texted a TAG link to my mom, lol. I immediately told her the link was meant for someone else. To this day I don't know if she clicked on it or not.
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That's cool.
A number of TAG members are attracted to MILF type, myself included.
 
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I accidentally texted a TAG link to my mom, lol. I immediately told her the link was meant for someone else. To this day I don't know if she clicked on it or not.
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Don't know what your mom's reaction is gonna be like, but if it was your dad, he might be like: I am proud of you son 😭🤣
 
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My girl has seen me browsing TAG, but her English is so weak that she doesn’t have the willpower to try to read what is on the screen.

On the other hand, she did see a screen of Jisho saying:

今日はいっぱいチンチンを咥えて楽しかった。

This was a translation from Sei no Kiwami Aqua’s CityHeaven diary and I didn’t know there was another verb of “kuwaeru” hence the lookup.

Of course I played it off as a line from a JAV film but haven’t produced the evidence. Since then I make sure to browse CityHeaven on my computer as little as possible.
 
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I found an ex-SB using this site or rather she found me first and it didn’t end that well, as some old timers here know.
Frankly your story would be much more interesting (and credible) if you two interact here. 😄
 
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yuri03 said:
Yes, we had a wonderful conversion with that.
the things i found are:
1. his conversation with guy who want to share his wife.
2. twitter DM with escorts or NTR guys.
i see he trying to book them.

His excuse is like these.
1. i was betting with that guy try to see whether he is real or not.
2. online me is just a fake. it's porn to me. booking was a false promise to soothing that poor girl since she couldn't get any client that date.

He promise he wont use any site like this or twitter.

I love him and try my best to understand so badly but this is so hard to understand for me. Most of part i believe what he saying though im suffering as well, thinking about that he may have urge to seeking other girls unconsciously.

Only i can imagine is i just order or get a girl for him which he said he don't want it.

I am tired to hear apologize or detail motivation which is out of any sense.

Could you why he act like this with any guy view?
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OP, you identify as an "Asian girl," but are you Japanese? In Japan, seeing a prostitute does not count as infidelity, neither according to the law, nor in the eyes of most wives. They assume that the husband isn't just drinking with colleagues. An affair on the other hand would be serious. According to the law, the homewrecker can be sued for damages, and at home, the cheating husband is in serious trouble.

My (Japanese) wife occasionally urges me to "get out of the house, have a massage, or something."

"It ain't cheating if money changes hands" is a very practical and rational philosophy. If your husband sees a prostitute once in a while does not have anything to do with "not getting enough sex at home." It's entertainment. Maybe you should take up swinging. He can satisfy his hard-wired urge to spread his seed, you can get some novel sex, and both of you don't have to hide.
 
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Not sure you should be telling her how to or how not to feel - you know nothing of their relationship, other than it’s annoyed her immensely that he was looking for something else. “Most wives” isn’t all wives.

Still wanna know how it turned out though!
 
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Alice said:
I don’t know if people on here can explain his behavior. Either he is a player and is different from the majority of posters here (thankfully), or he is like the other people here and tries to cover it with weak excuses,
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These other people, is it males on TAG in general in relationships?
Just curious who this unlikable majority is?
 
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These other people, is it males on TAG in general in relationships?
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1- Meet a Japanese woman.
2- Fall in love with the Japanese woman.
3- Make two kids with the Japanese woman.
4- Notice that Japanese woman is not as nice as it used to be.
5- Notice that the last time you had sex was 3 years ago when you conceived your last kid.
6- Think about divorce but realise that that would mean losing your kids and maybe even the visa (for those without PR)
7- Relise that you fucked up.
8- Settle for seeing a sex worker from time to time to avoid losing the little sanity you still have left.
 
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Ddddd said:
1- Meet a Japanese woman.
2- Fall in love with the Japanese woman.
3- Make two kids with the Japanese woman.
4- Notice that Japanese woman is not as nice as it used to be.
5- Notice that the last time you had sex was 3 years ago when you conceived your last kid.
6- Think about divorce but realise that that would mean losing your kids and maybe even the visa (for those without PR)
7- Relise that you fucked up.
8- Settle for seeing a sex worker from time to time to avoid losing the little sanity you still have left.
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Sadly those are plentiful, that was not an answer to my question though.
 
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This video made me thankful that my Japanese GF broke up with me. Now I won't have to go through this shit 🤣🤣🤣
 
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Babaram said:
"It ain't cheating if money changes hands" is a very practical and rational philosophy. If your husband sees a prostitute once in a while does not have anything to do with "not getting enough sex at home." It's entertainment. Maybe you should take up swinging. He can satisfy his hard-wired urge to spread his seed, you can get some novel sex, and both of you don't have to hide.
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It's a very practical and "rational" philosophy for people who like to fuck around. If her husband sees a prostitute once in a while and OP feels like shit because she does not like this "rational" behaviour, that is perfectly fine and her right. Not everyone - even in Japan - treats relationships like most (if not all?) men on this forum.

I'm just gonna assume that swinging recommendation is a joke lol.
 
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MrDuBois said:
It's a very practical and "rational" philosophy for people who like to fuck around. If her husband sees a prostitute once in a while and OP feels like shit because she does not like this "rational" behaviour, that is perfectly fine and her right. Not everyone - even in Japan - treats relationships like most (if not all?) men on this forum.

I'm just gonna assume that swinging recommendation is a joke lol.
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Yeah, it is pretty irrelevant what is "common" within a country. Every couple has to define themselves what is right for them and works....if OP was lied to and the husband's behaviour seems to be more than one singular mistake it is a serious problem. No idea how you can sort that one out.
 
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Sadly those are plentiful, that was not an answer to my question though.
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There is already a contingent of TAG users who enjoy looking down on us who hide the truth from our significant others.

True, there is a selfishness to all of it, but I find the paragons of manwhoring justice who talk down on the more debased are just as shitty for entirely different reasons. For example, I learned recently of one who claims to have "graduated" from his base passions after moping all over the forums for months. Good for him and his now steady girlfriend, whoーby the wayーmentioned to a TAG member that this said "graduate" isn't even a good lay and is a shitty partner. So for ALL of his preaching and pride in the end I think he is eternally shittier than me for treating the woman in his life like a foot stool which he just happens to not cheat on.

I feed my girl, massage her, buy her shit, and go out on dates with her. I do the laundry, wash the dishes, and take care of chores (its my place so I do it anyway but she insists on trying to do it for me and I don't let her.) I always try to be active during intercourse and make sure she has a good time. I NEVER have ever asked her for money, and I have zero interest in dating other women...I just want to have unadulterated adultery with others and then pay them to leave.

I am pretty sure Alice wasn't referring to us, so I am not directing this at her. Rather, the people who have such a high nose when in truth they likely have never tried to think what life might be like in another person's shoes.
 
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