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Many Japanese women don't give international dating a try, due to very negative advice or stories told by cowardly, close-minded, or racist Japanese friends or associates who scare or intimidate them. NOT all Japanese are like that, but some are.
For example, she tells her girlfriend of meeting a foreign person, and then her friend tells her some horrible story about foreigners or the area she met him; often from the Japanese news. The story or about the location, can have nothing to do with the foreign guy whatsoever. However, it's sufficient to scare her friend. Opportunity in life lost. And for many Japanese, their bubble is small, and they rarely get out of it.
Basically the friend is cowardly or racist, and is pushing or forcing their beliefs on other friends. I've seen this behavior extend to even Japanese who don't know each other. They pretend they are "protecting" them, and instead are being assholish xenophobics or racists. There is no "protection", just lots of close-mindedness or cowardice.
For example. Was with a date in Shimbashi. I'm not so familiar with the area, but she wanted to drink there. I choose a random bar, that looked interesting from the outside and I have never been to before.
After a short while, the older bartender there tries to test my level of Japanese. I pretend I don't speak Japanese, and also because I'm trying to focus on my date and talk with her instead.
The bartender, thinking I don't speak Japanese and using the opportunity of me going to the bathroom, then begins to tell the Japanese woman I'm with, all kinds of really fucked up lies. Like I'm a playboy that comes to the bar all the time (never been there in my life), and she should be careful of me.
My Japanese date of course doesn't know what the hell is going and is trying to be respectful to this older guy. Another Japanese woman, who seemed also upset by what the bartender is doing, informs me a bit about what was said while I was in the bathroom. The other woman had spent 10 years in California, and just returned to Japan. She asks me if I've ever came to the bar before. In the 3-way conversation, in Japanese, I figure out what was going on, and primarily because the other Japanese woman recently from the U.S. decided to air out what happened.
I then get pissed off about the insanity that was spewed by the bartender. Me and the asshole bartender then get into an argument. My Japanese date decides to run out. Likely embarrassed or afraid of the situation. I didn't bother to chase after her, and instead finished telling the bartender about how wrong it is to do the bullshit he pulled. Totally no reason to do that, and I was a customer.
A lot of foreigners in Japan have no idea about the very negative stories and underhanded tactics being used to scare Japanese women.
For example, she tells her girlfriend of meeting a foreign person, and then her friend tells her some horrible story about foreigners or the area she met him; often from the Japanese news. The story or about the location, can have nothing to do with the foreign guy whatsoever. However, it's sufficient to scare her friend. Opportunity in life lost. And for many Japanese, their bubble is small, and they rarely get out of it.
Basically the friend is cowardly or racist, and is pushing or forcing their beliefs on other friends. I've seen this behavior extend to even Japanese who don't know each other. They pretend they are "protecting" them, and instead are being assholish xenophobics or racists. There is no "protection", just lots of close-mindedness or cowardice.
For example. Was with a date in Shimbashi. I'm not so familiar with the area, but she wanted to drink there. I choose a random bar, that looked interesting from the outside and I have never been to before.
After a short while, the older bartender there tries to test my level of Japanese. I pretend I don't speak Japanese, and also because I'm trying to focus on my date and talk with her instead.
The bartender, thinking I don't speak Japanese and using the opportunity of me going to the bathroom, then begins to tell the Japanese woman I'm with, all kinds of really fucked up lies. Like I'm a playboy that comes to the bar all the time (never been there in my life), and she should be careful of me.
My Japanese date of course doesn't know what the hell is going and is trying to be respectful to this older guy. Another Japanese woman, who seemed also upset by what the bartender is doing, informs me a bit about what was said while I was in the bathroom. The other woman had spent 10 years in California, and just returned to Japan. She asks me if I've ever came to the bar before. In the 3-way conversation, in Japanese, I figure out what was going on, and primarily because the other Japanese woman recently from the U.S. decided to air out what happened.
I then get pissed off about the insanity that was spewed by the bartender. Me and the asshole bartender then get into an argument. My Japanese date decides to run out. Likely embarrassed or afraid of the situation. I didn't bother to chase after her, and instead finished telling the bartender about how wrong it is to do the bullshit he pulled. Totally no reason to do that, and I was a customer.
A lot of foreigners in Japan have no idea about the very negative stories and underhanded tactics being used to scare Japanese women.
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