Racial Preference In Dating & Sexual Partners

I agree with what most people said in that we all have preferences. But, as I have gotten older and having worked in fashion I learned to appreciate women more. Whether they fit my preference or not, I can usually find something attractive about a woman.(Don't get it twisted, I can see the ugly too.) That doesn't mean I want to have sex, it's just recognition and appreciation. But, being with a woman, appreciating their beauty, conveying that to them and the women being receptive to it, can make the experience so much better.
We all project images and stereotypes on people according to the way they look based on our social education and experiences and that isn't fair. But, I think it's important to keep an open mind. You never know. In an intimate situation someone may press the right buttons give you a memorable experience. And sometimes those buttons may not be physical locations but mental.
But, going back to the original question, and not going into detail, no I don't think having a preference makes you racist.
 
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The issue that I have with racial preferences are those people that try to impose and force their racist ideology and beliefs on others. For example, where a person is White, but doesn't think other Whites "should be allowed" to date, sex, or marry with other races. In addition, attempting to force their personal standard of beauty on other people, as if others can't be allowed to decide things about other races/ethnic groups that they like or think is beautiful.

And I'm not saying Whites are the only ones to do this, but rather any person of a race/ethnic group that doesn't allow others the same equal freedom of choice. So in another example, if a Black or Asian woman wanted to date White men, then fine. If a White woman wanted to date a Black or Asian man, than fine too. Respect the freedom of others to choose what they like.
 
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Solong said:
So in another example, if a Black or Asian woman wanted to date White men, then fine. If a White woman wanted to date a Black or Asian man, than fine too. Respect the freedom of others to choose what they like.
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In the US anyway the black community is super harsh on anyone who dates or marries out.
 
Wwanderer said:
I'd say the answer depends on the reason behind the preference. If you dislike/despise certain races in general and thus want to have nothing to do with them...including sex, that is racism pretty much by definition. But if you find some races more attractive than others but hold no animosity towards the races that don't appeal to you, it is simply personal taste, not racism. Imo.

-Ww
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can't we just set up a "www.askww.com" website?

.. He pretty much just nails every question every time lol..
 
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Ehhhhh, he's been around the block a couple of times......he picked up a few things :p
 
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vck_js said:
There's a style i go for (long hair, tattoos, etc) and as long as a guy fits this, i've never cared about his ethnicity or where he's from. Before, i used to travel a lot around the world to see bands i love, and like some people stated, tasting local food is nice.
I've never been with a black guy but it's not racism, think. I have this fixation on long hair (i can count on one hand my short-haired partners) and black guys tend to shave their heads.
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How about long dreadlocks or braids on black guys?
 
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patty diaz said:
http://fucknofetishization.tumblr.com/FAQ
I dont like the whole racial preference thing..its creepy. Ill leave this link here
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Agreed....also race is a myth.....racism is real. Preferences are often (im not saying always) influenced by social conditioning (ahem porn and the media in general) and the influences around you.

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And here
http://www.newsweek.com/there-no-such-thing-race-283123

In my opinion I think a lot of guys (and ive met a few in my time in Tokyo ;)) have funny notions of Japan and the women here and fall under the false illusions of the fetishisim.
 
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Well, I wasn't going to reply but....

I am a caucasian that loves em black. Married black! I found dark Japanese women. I prefer em dark. If they ain't dark, I have little interest.

Dark meat! Now I am just one of them types.
I never had much interest in my own race.

Reading your post, I figure in P4P, I set my natural tendencies aside to get a taste. After getting some Euro, some Asian, and some Mexican, I have decided that black is all I will ever go for.

Interesting enough, theyvare some dark Japanese. They suit me just fine. Thaus are dark! When I get to Thailand, I'm goona find me a dark one and me and Bubbly are gonna have ourselves some fun.

You can't beat a sista. That's why I lost in court. Gotta love life!
 
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Race has never been an issue for me. As other have stated, we all seem to have a type. Statistically, mine is dark haired girls. I don't actively pursue them exclusively, but 100% of my relationships have been with women with darker hair.

Now that I think about it, perhaps I should actively pursue someone different if only for the variety! :LOL:
 
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Couldn't say much more for myself than what Roots Reggae said before except I didn't/won't (note the past tense) manage to get married to a Japanese lady notwithstanding my preferences.

Not sure if others felt the same, sustained interaction with people from all over the world helps me understand and build respect for people from different cultures. My time in East Asia changed my perspective about people from this part of the world. Of course a good daily dose of my colleagues thigh courtesy her short skirts served as a daily reminder of what I was missing :p

As always I doff my to Ww for his wonderful post earlier...(y)(y)
 
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TheScientist said:
In the US anyway the black community is super harsh on anyone who dates or marries out.
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No. It's more complicated than that. Some people in the African American community are harsh on people who date or marry outside of it, but not all of it. And, quite a few prominent African Americans have married outside the race without any backlash.
 
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I got caught by an extreme case of "yellow fever" when I arrived in Asia almost ten years ago (I hope the term is not too offensive in an international forum, but it has been used by many of my friends including Asian).
Basically I had close to no interest for any non asian women and this for almost eight years.

It created some interesting situations as I could have talked to attractive western women without feeling any attraction / sexual tension... They were like men to me.
Thanks to that, some girls were feeling there was something wrong with them (when it was all about me) and were becoming extremely flirty... Once, a female colleague asked me very casually if i thought she was "fuckable". Which i casually replied, she was. I simply explained she was not my style.

Early 2015, I booked Kitty cause of her nice reviews (and I could not get in touch with Manami Chan). Actually, I was more curious about the lady herself than really interested to have sex with her ( Believe it or not ). I wanted to have a good date with dinner and drinks and meeting the lady with the stellar reviews.
I guess that night I added a new type of girls to my catalog of attraction...
 
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hkAlone said:
I guess that night I added a new type of girls to my catalog of attraction...
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I'm curious, from the sounds of things you are likely Caucasian yourself and therefore probably have had many Caucasian women already so I'm guessing that your preference here is more specific.
Unless you find another Scottish, blonde, blue-eyed, Caucasian, "hourglass" woman who wants to meet with you, does it really count as a racial preference? :rolleyes:
 
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You are perfectly right. It's hard to qualify Scottish blonde blue eyed hourglass women who wants to meet with you as a race, until you find an island full of them isolated from the rest of the world (it could be a good frame for some erotic/porn movie). ;)

I think the one I know have some unusual seduction skills. In any case, after meeting her I started feeling attraction again for Caucasian women more broadly (and Latinos, black women, ...).

In other words, racial attraction preferences may occasionally happened for any complex reasons not easily accessible to your conscience.
 
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phil3k said:
No. It's more complicated than that. Some people in the African American community are harsh on people who date or marry outside of it, but not all of it. And, quite a few prominent African Americans have married outside the race without any backlash.
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I oversimplified but if we look at data from the census bureau or Pew studies what I said holds broadly true. What is more difficult to capture from this data is how these numbers play out across socio-economic levels for each group and this is where what I said is even more solidly true due to the fact that as a whole, Black people in the US tend towards the lower income levels compared to other groups and here the prejudice against inter marriage is even stronger.

I also invite you to browse around discussion forums where the primary participants are Black and there you will see these sentiments expressed far more strongly by both Black men and women.
 
I usually lean towards white, mixed, and latinos. I have been with people of other races, but my eyes tend to jump to these three.
 
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MissInsomnia said:
My friend and I were having a little debate on this earlier.. and I wanted to bring the topic to TAG.

Do you have a racial preference when it comes to dating people and/or seeing sexual partners? And do you think having racial preference is racist?
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No. If there is a connection there is a connection, however it does boil down to the individual. I know people who will not date one race either because of stereotypes or just not their particular preference. Me on the other hand, if I find you attractive and you find me attractive and decide to go the distance I am not going to stop it just because your skin is white, black, brown, or yellow but that is just me.
 
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