Almost there.. How do I go one step further

[faboo2001]

I knew a guy just like you, he died from auto erotic asphyxiation.

It was the saddest memorial service that I ever went to, then I banged his prim and proper wife about a week later.

 

[Jbagz]

Totally joking...

But a dude in my neighborhood did die from that, barely knew him.

 

[TAG_Member]

It is not a forum to encourage cheating but it is a forum to exchange and share P4P information,
So if you think P4P is the worst hobby you picked up then you should just try to quit,
isnt that the logical course of action you would take?
As you mentioned you are only doing it once or twice per year so why not just stop it all together?

And see with your "side-topic" this thread everyone in the last responds are all quoting your statement rather than the OP question.

It's relevant, but it's such a big side-topic. It might overwhem the original thread. You said you were screwed for life, but you didn't say why. If you do, I'm pretty sure you will get a lot of responses.

I think you boys are reading way too much into what I said. All I was saying was not to cheat on his wife if he has not done it and not to be an idiot like me (again in his case cheating on his wife) who regrets getting into the P4P scene. Im not judging others but I personally wish I had not started it many years ago because I would feel differently about myself. It's like smoking, everyone knows it's bad and some wish they had not started it but probably don't want to quit now.

 

[hkAlone]

I think you boys are reading way too much into what I said. All I was saying was not to cheat on his wife if he has not done it. Don't be an idiot like me who regrets getting into the P4P scene. Im not judging others but I personally wish I had not started it many years ago because I would feel differently about myself. It's like smoking, everyone knows it's bad and some wish they had not started it but probably don't want to quit not.

Smoking is bad for your health.
P4P is bad for what? Couple economics ? Some guilt feeling regarding your partner?

 

[TAG_Member]

Smoking is bad for your health.
P4P is bad for what? Couple economics ? Some guilt feeling regarding your partner?

Some people just don't get it or can accept nor allow others to have different view...

Youre right, my bad. As you were.

 

[Gasse]

Looking at my friends' marriages it seems that if a girl wants to blow up your life she don't need much time to do it... Obviously not all the girls are crazy but are you willing to take that risk? I would at least talk with her about all this before heading to her bedroom.

If I was you I would do as have been suggested here and go with P4P. Those girls won't be calling to your home and asking when you are leaving your wife and moving together with them.

Yeah, sounds like you're in a small place with a mother in law who'll be around there after you leave. You can't control what the student will do or say in the future. Alarm bells flashing in my mind.

 

[DocMcStuffins]

I think you boys are reading way too much into what I said. All I was saying was not to cheat on his wife if he has not done it and not to be an idiot like me (again in his case cheating on his wife) who regrets getting into the P4P scene. Im not judging others but I personally wish I had not started it many years ago because I would feel differently about myself. It's like smoking, everyone knows it's bad and some wish they had not started it but probably don't want to quit now.

I see. I agree with the sentiment.

 

[thor]

My wife is very sweet and I'm sure she will be a good mother for our future kids. We are both looking forward to have an offspring.

We have nice sex about once a week and a quickie here and there, but while she does get orgasms, I think sex doesn't play an important part in her daily life. Also she's not what you'd call a sexy woman, it's just not in her personality.

Would it not be possible to have your mead and drink it too? Perhaps you could introduce your lustful interest to your wife and work towards a scenario where you can have them both simultaneously? Such a situation would eliminate the need for your wife to violently remove your fiscus upon discovering your hidden liaisons with this student.

Success to you! If you are fortunate enough to work this out, and take them both in the bed chamber - remember to always "finish" with your wife as this is the proper respect to her.

 

[dreams]

Yeah, sounds like you're in a small place with a mother in law who'll be around there after you leave. You can't control what the student will do or say in the future. Alarm bells flashing in my mind.

Quite agree.
Without any racial connotation, I feel that Japanese women can be particularly "odd" when it comes to relationship... I mean ready to do all sorts of crazy things...
I had a non sexual case in my office, some years back,. As I was the boss from abroad, one of the girls at the Tokyo office became infatuated wtih me, and pursued me not only when I was in Japan, but also calling me when I was back home, under the most futile reasons. I was so glad I did not indulge in her game, if I had, that would have been very damaging.It was a nightmare to sort this at the office level, so imagine if there had been some sexual relationship added to it...
Since you seem to have the same approach than me as far as our relationship with you wife is concerned, let me give you my advice, supported by 40 +years of activity: P4P ONLY It gives you freedom, variety, and satisfaction, with the added benefit of meeting a lot of incredible women form all sorts of shape, origine, etc...

 

[Gunmachan]

I'd like to thank you all for your valuable feedback. I didn't expect to get so many replies and I got the feeling TAG is more than a mere p4p forum, it is a community.

As hkAlone said, the biggest clue is my guilty face and change in behaviour. It seems my wife can read my emotions like an open book and she's been suspicious lately. She's asked me some questions that show she knows something is going on. (how come you don't use your phone much recently? What time is your lesson tomorrow? Where are you gonna meet? Etc.)
And my replies were loaded with poorly hidden angst.

So I have decided to head to Tokyo on my day off next week and to try a soapland for a first p4p experience. I will post a review.

I'm also going to meet my student two days after that and I will tell her that I regret kissing her because I don't want to compromise my marriage. (the only problem is that I falsely told her I was unhappy with my wife...)
I'll let you all know how it went.

 

[TAG_Member]

I'd like to thank you all for your valuable feedback. I didn't expect to get so many replies and I got the feeling TAG is more than a mere p4p forum, it is a community.

As hkAlone said, the biggest clue is my guilty face and change in behaviour. It seems my wife can read my emotions like an open book and she's been suspicious lately. She's asked me some questions that show she knows something is going on. (how come you don't use your phone much recently? What time is your lesson tomorrow? Where are you gonna meet? Etc.)
And my replies were loaded with poorly hidden angst.

So I have decided to head to Tokyo on my day off next week and to try a soapland for a first p4p experience. I will post a review.

I'm also going to meet my student two days after that and I will tell her that I regret kissing her because I don't want to compromise my marriage. (the only problem is that I falsely told her I was unhappy with my wife...)
I'll let you all know how it went.

Sounds like a good plan!

 

[Gunmachan]

Fuck me guys, I did the exact opposite from what I had planned. Skipped the p4p and fucked my student...

 

[User#8628]

Fuck me guys, I did the exact opposite from what I had planned. Skipped the p4p and fucked my student...

Well, thats what you initally wanted, right? Did it go smooth? The wife doesn't know?

 

[TAG_Member]

Fuck me guys, I did the exact opposite from what I had planned. Skipped the p4p and fucked my student...

Welcome to the other side and good luck with the next few months. I hope you don't get caught. Now that you've done it though, I'm sure some like me are waiting for the juicy details... lol

 

[Frostie]

I would just practice your sanity for the next few months haha. Paranoia incoming! I'm betting you did not have a sit-down with your student to talk about any of this before the sex happened, as you wrote "fuck me" (I sense a tinge of regret?), I sure hope you and your student figure something out so your marriage won't be in jeopardy. On a side note, congratulations on completing your original task!

 

[riotspace]

Yes please, some details would be great! Living vicariously through you.

 

[Frenchy]

Fuck me guys, I did the exact opposite from what I had planned. Skipped the p4p and fucked my student...

Lol! Well at least you saved some dough!
... at least for the time being . Good luck!

 

[Gunmachan]

Well, I was committed to go to go to Puchi Royal last Thursday. I had withdrawn the cash, calculated the train route and wanted to pick Tomoka as she was on the roster that day and has excellent reviews on TAG.
I'm 3 hours away from PR so as soon as my wife left to work, I got up. But I had just caught a cold the day before and I felt terrible... Sore throat, runny nose etc. So I bitterly went back to bed.
Then I spent the next 2 days fighting my cold because I was invited to my student's home on Saturday. (we don't use Line anymore since we kissed, just E-mails)

 

[Gunmachan]

On Saturday morning I left home, my wife believing I had my usual private lessons (I had actually cancelled them all, which is a 円13,500 loss btw).
I had put a spare shirt and sweater under my car's seat the day before.
It's a 1 hour drive to my student's house but she wasn't available till 4pm so I parked behind a konbini and waited in my car (sleeping and still trying to recover from my bloody cold). And changed my clothes.
I also bought a bottle of wine and some food as a present. (I knew I wouldn't be able to drink that wine because I was driving).
Then I went to the meeting point and she was late. While I was waiting, many people walked past me and teenagers kept saying hello as this is the countryside and Europeans are rare. I thought "fuck, what if someone recognises me.."

 

[hkAlone]

Well, I was committed to go to go to Puchi Royal last Thursday. I had withdrawn the cash, calculated the train route and wanted to pick Tomoka as she was on the roster that day and has excellent reviews on TAG.
I'm 3 hours away from PR so as soon as my wife left to work, I got up. But I had just caught a cold the day before and I felt terrible... Sore throat, runny nose etc. So I bitterly went back to bed.
Then I spent the next 2 days fighting my cold because I was invited to my student's home on Saturday. (we don't use Line anymore since we kissed, just E-mails)

I went thru that road long time ago.
Work on your guilt feeling to fully enjoy the experience. You have been faithful for many many years. Very few men can resist such temptation... even more with a lady who's that attracted to you.
Instead of wasting the good time you have right now, try to spend some time learning about yourself.
You have desires. You were attracted to a lady who very explicitly told you she liked you.
You had sex with her. You will surely do it again.
You love your wife. You are leaving Japan soon.

Two recommendations there...
1- No drama. Even if you feel some kind of attachment to this Japanese lady, it won't last. Just enjoy it. Don't draw conclusions about it. You still love you wife. No change on that side. Actually, spend even more time with your wife now. Invite her to dinner in a nice place. Don't isolate yourself ruminating your guilty feeling. Show your wife your love. Even if she had suspicion, it will just disappear as you will make her feel more secured.
2- Dont feel any guilt for your Japanese lover neither. Focus on sex only. You can have random conversations but avoid to mention any future about this relationship. Just enjoy it. You have no obligation to commit yourself there neither. If it ends, it will be much less painful. Be a kind epicurean asshole.
Having fun is not an issue. Manipulating someone s feeling is much worse than enjoying the time together until you don't.

 

[Gunmachan]

When she finally showed up we drove to her house and she introduced me to her dogs and cats.
It was already 5pm and I knew I had to be gone by 7pm, so I thought I would stick to my original plan and talk about me not wanting to jeopardise my marriage, just see her reaction, talk some more and gradually go home.
But I noticed she was kind of looking at me in 'that' way. Then she asked me to help carry her futon and led me to her bedroom. I got the message and as she was standing there saying nothing, I kissed her.

 

[Gunmachan]

But as we cuddled and kissed more, the atmosphere was strangely not heating up, maybe we were both nervous...
That's when she decided to open the wine and she guzzled two glasses of it at an impressive speed, letting out a fake "oishii!" that didn't match her facial expression.
We sat on the bed and continued with the kissing but her small dog was constantly disrupting us (rolling on the bed and barking). When it finally jumped down the bed I laid her there and started kissing her neck, shoulders and as soon as I liked her nipple, she made that awkward Jp porn sound of excessive simulation and had me wondering how the hell I was gonna really get her excited.

 

[Gunmachan]

After more touching and stripping, I finally got her nicely wet, I couldn't help but realise her pussy is different from my wife's (bigger, wider lips and smaller clitoris).
While I was playing with it, she licked my ears, shoulders and hairy chest, it felt weird, and then she sucked my nipple (my wife never does that). I didn't enjoy it much and my nipple is still painful to this day...
I told her I had condoms in my coat and I walked naked through her house to get them, with a massive boner.
Sat back on the bed and as I was opening the packet, she started sucking my dick, it felt awesome and I let her continue for a couple minutes.

 

[Gunmachan]

She was a bit self-conscious about her body and she dimmed the light while hiding her belly behind a pillow (she thinks she's too fat... Typical).
Then with my condom on, I asked her what's her favourite position and she wouldn't tell so I suggested she rides me (I knew she didn't have sex for three months so I thought I'd better let her control the penetration).
It felt great and she was energetic. As she started to wind down a bit , we switched to missionary and I pounded her until I came. (which of course happened earlier than I wished)

 

[Gunmachan]

As soon as my orgasm was over, I had the urgent desire to leave her home, but it would have made her feel like a sex toy so I committed myself to the pillow talk and she seemed very happy there in my arms talking about her work and... My wife.
At that point I was afraid she'd grow attached to me so I said I wanted to make things better with my wife and she suggested I try talking about it more.
Then I checked the time and it was exactly 7pm, so I said I had to go, she hugged me and said she wished I could stay longer.