meiji
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I've stayed out of this thread, because it's been dull and repetitive IMO, but I wanted to make a few points:
1. There's been plenty of women out there that have made it pretty clear that guys approaching them gets annoying. That's not to say it's all women, or all circumstances. But the fact that there are nanpa artists and model/AV scouts camped out near every train station might give people an inkling of how much hassle attractive women in Japan face on the street. If people took a moment to consider that gauntlet that they might run through on a regular basis one might see that even a well-meaning guy approaching them on the street could be considered annoying or threatening. I'm not saying that PUA is wrong or even a bad strategy. Just trying to be a little more even-handed here.
2. Cold-approaching women isn't the only way of meeting women. Social activity groups in Japan may not be quite as common, but it's not impossible.
3. There's more to a long term relationship than whether your SO is 'actually hot'. I mean, even aside from important things like shared interests or other compatability outside of the bedroom, maybe a guy's number one criteria sexually is that a girl is great at taking it in the ass, and prefers a "5" that loves it to a "9" that brushes aside his finger. And yeah, there's some guys that end up marrying women that aren't the guys idea of a prize, due to language issues or whatever. That's kind of the way things are, and I try not to belittle other people for their choices.
4. As for those pictures you posted, I personally prefer natural-looking women, and definitely prefer one or two of the girls from the first group over the "Black Hole Sun" video-looking woman that you posted. Yes, that may be the standard for Japanese beauty (these days), but that doesn't mean women that don't look like that aren't beautiful.
1. There's been plenty of women out there that have made it pretty clear that guys approaching them gets annoying. That's not to say it's all women, or all circumstances. But the fact that there are nanpa artists and model/AV scouts camped out near every train station might give people an inkling of how much hassle attractive women in Japan face on the street. If people took a moment to consider that gauntlet that they might run through on a regular basis one might see that even a well-meaning guy approaching them on the street could be considered annoying or threatening. I'm not saying that PUA is wrong or even a bad strategy. Just trying to be a little more even-handed here.
2. Cold-approaching women isn't the only way of meeting women. Social activity groups in Japan may not be quite as common, but it's not impossible.
Ok I think we're once again talking about different things a little bit. You are saying it won't be hard to the average, socially normal guy to get laid in Japan. I agree with this for the most part if you are going for low-hanging fruit.
The "huge majority" of foreign men in Japan date trolls with うすい faces that most self-respecting Japanese guys won't touch. A bit blunt, but I'm just being real here. I have many friends who met their girlfriends or wives through "normal"means like social circle, work, or introductions, and almost none of them are actually hot.
In short, you have some correlations:
Group A:
Black haired. Usui faces. Small / slit eyes. Educated. Speak English. Been to Guam / Bali / Studied abroad in Australia / US / Canada. OL or career focused.
If you want a girlfriend who looks like this, it will be easy.
Group B:
Brown haired. More makeup. More genetically "gifted" (read: attractive by Japanese standards, enough to make a living off of it). Probably doesn't speak English. Probably hasn't been outside of Japan.
If you want a girlfriend who looks like this, good luck. You are going to have to work at it. But, it will be worth it!
3. There's more to a long term relationship than whether your SO is 'actually hot'. I mean, even aside from important things like shared interests or other compatability outside of the bedroom, maybe a guy's number one criteria sexually is that a girl is great at taking it in the ass, and prefers a "5" that loves it to a "9" that brushes aside his finger. And yeah, there's some guys that end up marrying women that aren't the guys idea of a prize, due to language issues or whatever. That's kind of the way things are, and I try not to belittle other people for their choices.
4. As for those pictures you posted, I personally prefer natural-looking women, and definitely prefer one or two of the girls from the first group over the "Black Hole Sun" video-looking woman that you posted. Yes, that may be the standard for Japanese beauty (these days), but that doesn't mean women that don't look like that aren't beautiful.