Big Dicks

[Solong]

Though i am not the biggest guy out there, i have run into a cervix on many many occasions. It isn't great for her, or me actually, nothing like smacking your cock into brick wall now is there....... I would say that for the most part if if im putting a girl into a seriously painful situation, i want to know. i know there is pleasurable pain, but there is a line that you can usually notice when its crossed.

For me it is off-putting when i am putting a women in serious pain, usually i will let her get into a place where she isn't in so much discomfort. I mean im going to get off no mater what really happens, so why make her cry?

i find i tend to enjoy the time better when tears aren't involved.

I'm longer than average myself. Japanese females will act like I'm the reincarnation of John Holmes and Long Dong Silver, when there are actually plenty of Western guys my size.

1) You don't have to put your entire penis in. You can 1/2 or 3/4 penetrate them.

2) Date TALL Japanese women. I usually run into problems with Japanese women below 160cm.

Below 155cm is the most annoying range and the most issues. Because of too many past bad experiences with short Japanese women, I don't even consider them for girlfriends.

I usually never have problems with Japanese women 167cm or taller. And if I do, it's more Japanese psychological problems than actually physically.


3) If your penis is bigger than 4 inches, you can have a Japanese chick going "Dekai, Dekai!"

I'm so tired of the Japanese silliness, it makes me want to slap such females upside their head.

This hysteria about penis size causes too many Japanese women to OVERREACT or PRETEND the penis is hurting them. It appears to be something they think guys want to hear or are conditioned to react that way culturally.

Japanese guys who have a small penis keep telling Japanese women that a big penis will hurt them, to scare them. It's a kind of control trick. A lot of Japanese women are too ignorant and fall into the trap. They then start fearing larger penises and/or have weird psychological issues.

Hearing Japanese chicks going "Dekai, Dekai" strokes your ego at first, but then after a while, you see through the ridiculous bullshit. It's like the heavily overused Japanese words of "kawaii" or "atsui", just gets plain annoying.

4) Some girls like a penis touching their cervix and deep, and some don't.

I think a lot has to do with habit, not just her physical proportions.

It can be that she is very tall and only has had shallow penetration, so that's what she knows. It can be that she is short and got used to deep penetration and has orgasms, so then that is something she can crave. Her past sexual experience can be a major factor.

 

[GoldenDalton]

You should either study female anatomy or shut the fuck up.

Your choice.

Damn man. Don't hate on Solong: he is a font of knowledge about this stuff. Let there be peace among champions lol.

I'm no authority- but I have noticed a fairly big level of " looseness" in women who have given birth. That could just be my imagination, though.

 

[R.O.B]

Funny. 30+ years ago when I first came to (and in) Japan I never experienced the 'too big' issue. Since, I wonder if more foreign presence, the advent of the Internet, easier access to porn (by women), boom in erotic/deviant manga etc. has added to this 'too big' thing. I don't think I have grown any larger or Japanese girls shrunk. They have changed though. Much taller, and the greater use of beds (not futons), escalators, chairs etc. (I'm serious!) - things that do not require bending or hip flexing - might have something to do with it. Giving birth does have an effect, I think. So would your mouth if you passed a watermelon through it.

For those interested in educating yourself, having your eyes opened and enjoying a good read/laugh, try Mary Roach's book, 'Bonk!". Yes, friends, it is about fucking and the equipment involved and much much more, but don't (and you won't) get excited - it is done seriously (well seriously enough). She also wrote one called 'Stiff' (it is about dead people, not hard-ons) and to round off a good set you could read 'Spook', which is about ghosts/spirits/afterlife.

I recently had a coffee with someone I met through Metropolis. Soon realized it would be a dud. I mentioned to her that I read a lot. She asked me what I was reading at that time. It was 'Stiff'. I told her about it…. So if you want to good way to dis-interest a date, guys and gals, try that.

 

[Solong]

Funny. 30+ years ago when I first came to (and in) Japan I never experienced the 'too big' issue. Since, I wonder if more foreign presence, the advent of the Internet, easier access to porn (by women), boom in erotic/deviant manga etc. has added to this 'too big' thing. I don't think I have grown any larger or Japanese girls shrunk. They have changed though. Much taller, and the greater use of beds (not futons), escalators, chairs etc. (I'm serious!) - things that do not require bending or hip flexing - might have something to do with it. Giving birth does have an effect, I think. So would your mouth if you passed a watermelon through it.

For those interested in educating yourself, having your eyes opened and enjoying a good read/laugh, try Mary Roach's book, 'Bonk!". Yes, friends, it is about fucking and the equipment involved and much much more, but don't (and you won't) get excited - it is done seriously (well seriously enough). She also wrote one called 'Stiff' (it is about dead people, not hard-ons) and to round off a good set you could read 'Spook', which is about ghosts/spirits/afterlife.

I recently had a coffee with someone I met through Metropolis. Soon realized it would be a dud. I mentioned to her that I read a lot. She asked me what I was reading at that time. It was 'Stiff'. I told her about it…. So if you want to good way to dis-interest a date, guys and gals, try that.

That's why I know it's bullshit too. I came to Japan for the first when I was much younger and in military. Not only did you NEVER hear Japanese girls say "dekai", even was doing ANAL with them and NO LUBE, just their vaginal juice and spit. When I look back on it, I was like WOW.

I estimate this nutty "dekai" craze happening in the last 10 years, with me not hearing it so much until the last 6 years. It came along with the new Japanese right-wing conservatives and anti-foreigner movement.

Japanese guys and media kept telling all these weird penis theories. All about making "foreign penis" look bad.

Do you remember the, "We Japanese have a penis that is harder than foreigners (including other Asians 0,0), and hard like a diamond."? Total nonsense!!!

That lasted for about a year or two, but then got disproven. Firmness of a penis has NOTHING to do with race, nationality, and not so much with size. It's like saying Japanese muscle is harder than foreign muscles. Complete nonsense. But it was ridiculously popular for Japanese girls to believe all Western foreigners had a soft penis or that all big penises were soft.

I have a big and hard penis that stands straight up. Japanese women would be feeling it to check it's firmness years ago. I'm in Swinger circles. They would get all shocked and kept saying how hard it was, and for their boyfriend or husband to check, which I would repeatedly have to stop Japanese guys from doing so. "Your lady can, and you will just have to take her word for it."

Then came the insane "Dekai, Dekai!!!" madness. It was like Godzilla had hit the beach. Japanese chicks eyes would be popping out their head, hands in the air, and they would run around like an actress in a comedy skit, telling any Japanese in the area or girlfriends. After that, then they get all FAKE scared that the penis would hurt. Weird Japanese psychological and cultural issues, where you would have to explain that a penis 2 or 3 inches longer is not going to kill them.

Did Japanese change genetically from 15 years ago until 5 years ago. Hell no! Just total bullshit made popular by guys with a small penis to scare Japanese girls that are dumb (and who have never been with a foreigner) from larger penises and foreign men.

And to make it worse, Japanese women are TALLER now than 20 years ago. If anything, the taller Japanese are physically more able to handle larger penises.

And in my travels to other countries and with other Asian women, don't have this issue, like with Japanese women. Been with short Korean, Thai, Filipina, Taiwanese, Chinese, Japanese-American (ain't they the same genetically if unmixed?)... Took the penis like a champ. They might mention the size or it take a little bit for her to get used to, but it wasn't an over exaggerated huge ordeal as it has become recently with Japanese.

 

[psd]

This simple sentence of ours shows that you simply don't understand it.

The length of the vagina to the cervix can change.

The rest from you is just hot air.

 

[Solong]

This simple sentence of ours shows that you simply don't understand it.



The rest from you is just hot air.

You just proved how ignorant that you are, without knowing it.

Care to place a bet that the size of an individual woman's vagina is variable. And that the length of the vagina CHANGES depending on how sexually excited she is and as an adapative mechanism for larger penises.

Loser of the bet stays away from this site for 1 month. I will even make it easier on you, loser doesn't respond to the winner for 1 month.

Put up or shut up! I'm the last guy you want to call out.

 

[johnnyboy84]

I think the talk on how a big penis can penetrate a tight vagina and hurting the girl is overrated lol. But that's just me. Sometimes the reverse is true too lol. I felt that "pain" a small number of times so far within the industry. The constricting does surprise me and it feels like my cock is being choked but hell, I adjust and everything works out. Most of the girls I have met don't necessarily buy into the propaganda or don't admit that they do, but they do have the curiosity to try and the moment it's in, they simply enjoy it and want me to give it my all.

 

[Hamerare]

The Large Johnson myth is one reason y some service providers refuse to go with foreigners in Japan. It's total nonsense.

I'm no xpert on dix, but in general, a dude's johnson is in proportion to his height. Most women dont give a shit provided it gets inside n duz its job

 

[Hamerare]

This simple sentence of ours shows that you simply don't understand it.



The rest from you is just hot air.

Hey dude its time to cut Solong some slack. He may not be perfect but neither r u

U do urself no favorz by attacking a fellow bro and Solong's input to this forum kinda puts u 2 shame

If u want a forum where u can really dig into wankerz hu deservdm it, try

www.philippines-addicts.com

Exposure to these guyz will help u apprecia8 the good thing we got going here

 

[TheScientist]

A thread about penis size that turned into an internet dick waving contest? Color me shocked!

 

[johnnyboy84]

Ultimately, the way i like to handle a woman's reaction is telling her that I can't help it when I see a beautiful woman. They do feel shy when I like to say that

 

[GoldenDalton]

Guys with smaller penisis shouldn't feel too bad in my opinion.

Yes I am " blessed" with a larger than average penis, but I'm also larger than average all- around.

That's not always a bonus. I have had to accept that I will not be attractive to large numbers of Japanese women, due to the fact that my appearance alone will make them uneasy. No matter how much weight I lose, ill never be " slim," because I am barrell chested beyond hope. In Japan I feel like I am an oversized oaf. A Japanese girl once called me a " gentle giant," which she meant to flatter me, but it actually created a little bit of insecurity there. Also, it seems like in Japan being a larger man means a lot of folks will
Assume you're dumb.

Most of the guys who clean up in Japan are shorter, slimmer, have that kawaii look with blonde or dyed hair, etc.

On the other hand, I get attention from Ganguro girls, which is strange, as I'm pasty and pale.

 

[TAG Manager]

Some of you 'regular' sized guys leave girls in pain as it is... whether they tell you or not. Some girls will only see 1 client per night for this reason alone unless it's just oral/hj service only.

I get attention from the OL types since that's the type I'm around 95% of the time. (I don't really go out that much, but people think I'm approachable.) And, I'm not that much to look at, very average.

That all said, guys, be respectful to each other. There are no enemies here.

 

[Solong]

Met up with a shorter than expected female from online this Sunday. Thought she was 158cm, which would be very border line for me, but turned out she was 155cm (shorter than expected) and exactly the personal historical size limit that I have problems with. I know, I know. Probably a lot of people are like, "What fucking difference could that possibly make?" I tell ya, there must be some drunken gods that see the shit I type and put exactly this type of short Japanese chick in my path for their entertainment.

I'm a horny dog, so proceed anyway, to see if this online date will end up in the hotel. This 30 year old woman was a bit emotionally unstable and it was like riding a roller coaster. Couldn't tell how this was going to end, I thought on a couple occasions that this date was going to be over early. She had a bit of an turn-off attitude. As the evening progressed, we had somehow progressed to unusually deep conversations (must have been the wine). She started crying about her ex-boyfriend (Japanese) leaving her and staying in another country. Japanese guy went to Britain and e-mailed her that he wasn't coming back. Being the good samaritan that I am, I offered comfort and a warm shoulder to cry on. This lead to kissing, then us being in a hotel room together.

Big cock, introduce yourself to little vagina. When the cock came out the underwear, of course "Dekai, Dekai!" You just can't make this shit up. I probably need to write a book at some point. Well, after all the damn "Dekai!" and "It's so big!" get out of the way, we get to the business of sexual action.

Got this chick wet as can be. Licked her, G-spot stimulated her, and made her cum before even putting the penis in. She was incredibly wet, which of course is a good sign. Wanted to go easy on her and just do 1/2 to 3/4 penetration. I could feel her cervix on the tip of my penis, so knew I couldn't go full throttle or balls deep in her and try to go easy.

Unfortunately, this was one of these type of women that get all possessed and uncontrollably wild when they have sex. She is moving her hips (very good and exciting) and asking me (pulling me) to go deeper and faster. OK... "Itai, Itai!" When I was all new to Japan, I kind of enjoyed that, but now I just roll my eyes. I then go back to the plan of not going all the way in her, and things were going well for a good while. Pulled her on top, which would ordinarily allow the woman to control the depth of the penetration. Ordinarily. This silly rabbit gets all wild and IMPALES HERSELF on my penis, "Itai!!!", and jumps off my cock. The shit was so silly that I just had to start laughing. I mean totally ridiculous. She was curled up and holding her stomach, but started laughing too, because she knew how ridiculous that was.

After the fun was over, I talked to her about deep penetration. And don't get me wrong, sex with this cute chick was mostly fun. But per her words, she stated that a long penis felt like she was being punched in the gut. It wasn't painful like a cut, put like a blunt object hit in the gut type of uncomfortable sensation. But see, my issue with that was it was her own fault. She is a kind of wild clumsy chick. I was being very careful NOT to deeply pound the hell out of her.

The other part of the problem, she is a SHORT female that doesn't have experience handling longer penises. She has went 30 years of her life NEVER being deeply penetrated by her other boyfriends. That part of the inside of her vagina is just not used to it. Like anything good sexually, it takes PRACTICE. From blow jobs, hand jobs, anal, etc... To be good, women need to practice and learn skills. And that includes learning how to handle big cock, if they are short females. Some women take the time to learn how to handle and master big cock, while other women don't or can't. It all depends. Personally, I like women that can handle penis and that you can fully thrust into.

If you are a big cock foreign guy, to spare yourself all the unwanted sexual drama, you may want to consider dating taller or more flexible women (dance, yoga, gymnastics, double jointed...). The more flexible women, from experience, tend to know how to relax their muscles and legs. Thus they tend to be able to handle larger size penis better.

 

[Solong]

Murphy's Law. Short chick in the previous post has come back for more. Maybe she is masochistic, but it's fun. Much less "itai and dekai" this time around.

Update- Short chick has become one of my regulars and does anal too now . Goes to show how adaptive women can be with some practice and willingness.

 

[psd]

You just proved how ignorant that you are, without knowing it.

I'm so sorry I missed your narcissistic rages.

"The length of the vagina to the cervix can change."

You should take your time to find out what a vagina is. It's not what you think it is. After that you should find out what a cervix is.

You see, you said this:
"The length of the vagina to the cervix can change. The vagina can be more "shallow" in a woman that hasn't had sex in a long time or has a partner with a small penis. "

and that is absolute bullshit. (You may have worked this out after shooting your mouth off as your words have changed subtly but you'll never admit it)

"4) Some girls like a penis touching their cervix and deep, and some don't."
Obviously you don't have a long dick. If you had ever touch a cervix you'd understand. Ask a woman how much they enjoy a smap smear.


No doubt, this will provoke another narcissistic rage event from you. Go on, it's so predictable, so easy to provoke, and so hilarious for anyone that understands NPD.

The funniest thing is, you'll never get it.

 

[R.O.B]

1. A good read about many things that come up on the site is 'Bonk' by Mary Roach. Seriously, but seriously entertaining.
2. A 'smap smear' - is that, like, running over an insufferable, over-the-hill, over-aged Japanese boy group… in a Kenworth? Seriously entertaining.
3. Millions of Japanese woman would love a 'smap smear' by your definition - so would millions of guys (see 2).

 

[Solong]

I'm so sorry I missed your narcissistic rages.

"The length of the vagina to the cervix can change."

You should take your time to find out what a vagina is. It's not what you think it is. After that you should find out what a cervix is.

You see, you said this:
"The length of the vagina to the cervix can change. The vagina can be more "shallow" in a woman that hasn't had sex in a long time or has a partner with a small penis. "

and that is absolute bullshit. (You may have worked this out after shooting your mouth off as your words have changed subtly but you'll never admit it)

"4) Some girls like a penis touching their cervix and deep, and some don't."
Obviously you don't have a long dick. If you had ever touch a cervix you'd understand. Ask a woman how much they enjoy a smap smear.


No doubt, this will provoke another narcissistic rage event from you. Go on, it's so predictable, so easy to provoke, and so hilarious for anyone that understands NPD.

The funniest thing is, you'll never get it.

You didn't respond to the original challenge, then you decided to do a typing rage drive-by, like a month later. The more angry venom that you spew, the more clear it becomes that you do NOT know about vaginas. Calling me names is just deflection and an ad hominem attack to hide what you don't know or your stubborn refusal to accept being wrong.

I will try to help you learn about vaginas (though actual experience with them is best):

1) http://www.answers.com/Q/How_deep_can_a_female's_vagina_be
(easy answer)

2) http://m.humrep.oxfordjournals.org/content/21/6/1618.full (complicated study, but gives insight on the correlation between pelvic size and the vagina.)

3) http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vagina

Goto: Variations and size

"During sexual arousal, the vagina expands in both length and width."

4) http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_arousal

Female physiological response:

"The beginnings of sexual arousal in a woman's body is usually marked by vaginal lubrication (wetness), swelling and engorgement of the external genitals, and INTERNAL ENLARGEMENT of the vagina."

There is way more data on how the vagina expands in size when sexually aroused, but I will let you chew on that for a while.

Touching the Cervix

You might be confusing pounding the cervix violently and repeatedly, versus the penis head just touching it. Just touching it and brushing it can feel good to some women.

Also different women have different perceptions of deep penetration. Where some women like the feeling of fullness or feel it's easier for their vagina to grip the larger penis.

Furthermore, I presently have a 155cm Japanese regular, who I can easily touch her cervix with my penis. She is a very clear personal case study, with whom I can compare my taller lady friends to (164cm and 177cm/5'10), (White)), and who I can talk to about what she feels.

With both my 155cm and 164cm lady friends, I talked to both about how they feel about getting their cervix touched extensively. With my tallest lady friend (177cm and she is just a bit taller than me) I can reach her cervix only at the beginning (before she gets really warmed up) or in certain deep penetration positions, like her legs over my shoulders.

With the 164cm Japanese lady friend and 177cm European, we never had an issue. I touch the cervix of the shorter Japanese women, a bit more more often, but not all the time. She has NEVER complained of any pain. When she refers to it, she says it's a feeling of fullness. Again, I didn't notice any issue with her, except for the very first time. She talked about her legs being tired from holding them open, more than anything.

The only one that has ever complained of some discomfort was the shortest woman, and only the first couple of times we had sex. She adapted to the size after a week. She even does anal now, and I'm talking about cumming strongly.

She is also very orgasmic and wet (which can make a difference too) and once she starts to cum, she likes deep pounding. It's also easy for me to control myself and not go full in. I can go 75% in, sit up in a kneeling position, and rub her clit with my thumb and make her cum (highly recommend this position). Then she wants deep pounding from that point.

Whatever I type, is backed up by actual experience. Just like the picture of the girl in my avatar ;-)

 

[Tokyo1447]

Met up with a shorter than expected female from online this Sunday. Thought she was 158cm, which would be very border line for me, but turned out she was 155cm (shorter than expected) and exactly the personal historical size limit that I have problems with. I know, I know. Probably a lot of people are like, "What fucking difference could that possibly make?" I tell ya, there must be some drunken gods that see the shit I type and put exactly this type of short Japanese chick in my path for their entertainment.

I'm a horny dog, so proceed anyway, to see if this online date will end up in the hotel. This 30 year old woman was a bit emotionally unstable and it was like riding a roller coaster. Couldn't tell how this was going to end, I thought on a couple occasions that this date was going to be over early. She had a bit of an turn-off attitude. As the evening progressed, we had somehow progressed to unusually deep conversations (must have been the wine). She started crying about her ex-boyfriend (Japanese) leaving her and staying in another country. Japanese guy went to Britain and e-mailed her that he wasn't coming back. Being the good samaritan that I am, I offered comfort and a warm shoulder to cry on. This lead to kissing, then us being in a hotel room together.

Big cock, introduce yourself to little vagina. When the cock came out the underwear, of course "Dekai, Dekai!" You just can't make this shit up. I probably need to write a book at some point. Well, after all the damn "Dekai!" and "It's so big!" get out of the way, we get to the business of sexual action.

Got this chick wet as can be. Licked her, G-spot stimulated her, and made her cum before even putting the penis in. She was incredibly wet, which of course is a good sign. Wanted to go easy on her and just do 1/2 to 3/4 penetration. I could feel her cervix on the tip of my penis, so knew I couldn't go full throttle or balls deep in her and try to go easy.

Unfortunately, this was one of these type of women that get all possessed and uncontrollably wild when they have sex. She is moving her hips (very good and exciting) and asking me (pulling me) to go deeper and faster. OK... "Itai, Itai!" When I was all new to Japan, I kind of enjoyed that, but now I just roll my eyes. I then go back to the plan of not going all the way in her, and things were going well for a good while. Pulled her on top, which would ordinarily allow the woman to control the depth of the penetration. Ordinarily. This silly rabbit gets all wild and IMPALES HERSELF on my penis, "Itai!!!", and jumps off my cock. The shit was so silly that I just had to start laughing. I mean totally ridiculous. She was curled up and holding her stomach, but started laughing too, because she knew how ridiculous that was.

After the fun was over, I talked to her about deep penetration. And don't get me wrong, sex with this cute chick was mostly fun. But per her words, she stated that a long penis felt like she was being punched in the gut. It wasn't painful like a cut, put like a blunt object hit in the gut type of uncomfortable sensation. But see, my issue with that was it was her own fault. She is a kind of wild clumsy chick. I was being very careful NOT to deeply pound the hell out of her.

The other part of the problem, she is a SHORT female that doesn't have experience handling longer penises. She has went 30 years of her life NEVER being deeply penetrated by her other boyfriends. That part of the inside of her vagina is just not used to it. Like anything good sexually, it takes PRACTICE. From blow jobs, hand jobs, anal, etc... To be good, women need to practice and learn skills. And that includes learning how to handle big cock, if they are short females. Some women take the time to learn how to handle and master big cock, while other women don't or can't. It all depends. Personally, I like women that can handle penis and that you can fully thrust into.

If you are a big cock foreign guy, to spare yourself all the unwanted sexual drama, you may want to consider dating taller or more flexible women (dance, yoga, gymnastics, double jointed...). The more flexible women, from experience, tend to know how to relax their muscles and legs. Thus they tend to be able to handle larger size penis better.

Great review on your date^^

 

[GoldenDalton]

I can tell just from how Solong writes that his truth is true enough for him, and likely to apply to others.

His advice has been very helpful to me and others. I've found it to be generally true and beneficial.

Arguing about vaginas is kind of funny to me.

It's funny to me that narcissism is thrown around in this. I just had to cut ties with a clinical narcissist. No picnic for sure- it is funny to see narcissism as a diagnosis as part of this discussion of vaginas ha.

 

[just4fun]

That's why I prefer women you like giving bj's and cim so I don't need to to be so up to date with this stuff.......

 

[johnnyboy84]

as for the vagina argument, all i care is about putting it in and giving her what i hope i feel is the fuck of her life.

 

[psd]

You didn't respond to the original challenge,

The original challenge was:

Solong:
"I think the perceived bottom of a woman's vagina can depend on how long it's been since she had sex and the previous size of the penis that she is used to."

psd:
"As Wwander said, I'm pretty sure the cervix doesn't change much in normal life."​

and again

Solong:
"The length of the vagina to the cervix can change. The vagina can be more "shallow" in a woman that hasn't had sex in a long time or has a partner with a small penis."​

Arousal can change the length of the vagina but that's not what you said. You thought the vagina can be "broken in" and lengthens due to regular intercourse. Studies have shown that position of the cervix doesn't not change in non arousal state - in fact this is mentioned in one of your citations. (hint: read your citations properly)

and hilariously you think the vagina is the outside bit, ie the vulva:

Solong:
"The length of the vagina to the cervix can change."​

Solong:
"an ad hominem attack "​

I didn't insult you, I questioned your statements. That's the problem with narcissists, you see everything as a personal attack, anyone questions you and it produces a massive over reaction to your narcissistic injury.

 

[Username1]

I'm thinking less talk on who knows more about vaginas and more discussions on how we can all get in them more frequently!

 

[just4fun]

I've never actually cared about how to make a hormone. That's not what I'm paying my hard earned money for! If she's paying me then that's a different story.