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Alternative ways to understanding the basics of PUA.
This can be especially useful for punters or newbies to Japan, who are not clear about how to pickup Japanese women or cultural differences on how to go about it.
Date Cafes (also called Deai Cafes)
http://www.deai-cafe.net/tokyo/
Date/Deai Cafes exists in the middle of P4P/Pay and PUA/Nampa. They are a bit special in this regard and provide an unique experience, which can quickly bring a punter or newbie in Japan up to speed. They also provide more guaranteed of success, for guys that are not used to non-guaranteed interactions between men and women outside the P4P context or can be a less experienced PUA's plan B for that day.
Much of what will be listed, will be true for the free or less costly alternatives of Speed Dating & International Parties.
Similarities to PUA & Lessons To Learn:
1) We are all COMPETING
Many guys don't relaize or are fully cognizant that they are not the only one after a specific woman. Their focus zooms in on a woman, and they think it's all about them. When actually, you were the 3rd guy today to approach her or 3 others will approach after you this day or week.
And on the flip, women are competing with each other too. She's not the only one, that you can approach.
A Date Cafe usually puts all of that in 2 rooms. All the guys in 1 room, and all the women in another. Speed Dating & International Parties in 1 room. You, the guy, can now see all the competition around.
When it comes to getting that woman to choose YOU and not the other guy, how do you stack up? And, why did you choose her and NOT the other women?
2) Appearance; how you present yourself
Now that you know, that you are competing with other men, let's address your appearance. The guy next to you is shaved, smells good, and well dressed. Do you think looking like a homeless guy from off the street will make women want to choose you?
It now becomes much more apparent, even with women that you are negotiating P4P with, that how you look and present yourself counts. And it's NOT the best looking guy always win. It's the COMBINATION of how you dress, talk, possibly language ability (Japan), personality, and what you are offering her. What are you showing her that's better than what other guys are offering? What is she showing you, that's better than what other women are showing?
3) Body Language & Facial Expressions
This is especially important for guys not familiar to PUA. In many Date Cafes there are 2 way mirrors. It gives a unique opportunity to study women. How they dress, make up, fashion.... What is it that you like about a woman/Japanese woman? At Speed Dating Parties or International Parties, you can STUDY how women react to guys approaching them. Not just negative reactions, but the positive female reactions too.
After you had 1 on 1 time or conversations with a woman, think about her face and body language, and how she reacted to what you said.
4) Negotiations
Something great about Date Cafes, is they make negotiating more obvious than even social events or regular dates. For those that have never tried it, those 5 to 10 minutes can be pressured packed, as the guy tries to convince the woman to leave with him and at the right price.
While negotiations are apparent in that context, many guys aren't mindful that's happening in slower speed on a date too. Instead of 5 or 10 minutes, you have 3 to 6 hours or so to CONVINCE the woman to have SEX with you or start an intimate relationship.
Instead of using money, you are (in a way) selling YOURSELF to her. You have become the currency instead. You are convincing her that you are such a good option (now and in the future), that she wants to reward you with sex or she wants to start a special relationship, in order to keep you around and not go elsewhere to other women.
When a man understands that he's presenting himself and in a negotiation to convince a woman, then he has greater awarness over others that don't. To include having greater awarness than many women he is talking to on a date, thus he has the advantage. The first objective is to convince her (or her subconscious mind) that she would want to have sex or start a special relationship with you, before you actually have sex.
5) Language
The great thing about Date Cafes or Speed Dating/International Parties, is they are a great opportunity to practice your Japanese and conversational skills. These are the SAME skills a guy would use in PUA/Nampa.
Note- If you get a woman's e-mail or LINE ID, you can use the messaging to practice your Japanese too. Google Translate and smartphone language dictionaries are your friend.
6) Planning Where To Take Her
So she leaves with you from the Date Cafe or Speed Dating event, and now where do you go?
Even in the P4P context, there is no escaping planning. Which Date Cafe or Dating Party to go to? What's around that area? What restaurants and hotels are nearby? Instead of running from it and being that clueless guy where a woman is wondering what the hell is wrong with you, be like a BOSS.
The guy that plans out things in advance has the advantage. The difference for PUA between a Date Cafe or Speed Dating/International Party, is the guy should be doing a bit more planning about the location in advance. When you invite a woman out on a date, you should be very familiar about the area. It should be an area that you, the guy, chose.
7) The Jump To PUA
After a guy has done Date Cafes or these Date Party events several times, a guy can be much more clear about what's going on with Japanese women.
The jump is that instead of thinking you need to go to a particular place to "get women", you can open your mind and realize that you can meet women ANYWHERE. You can have a conversation with a woman at the 7-11 or McDonalds, get her confact info, and then ask her out on a date.
This can be especially useful for punters or newbies to Japan, who are not clear about how to pickup Japanese women or cultural differences on how to go about it.
Date Cafes (also called Deai Cafes)
http://www.deai-cafe.net/tokyo/
Date/Deai Cafes exists in the middle of P4P/Pay and PUA/Nampa. They are a bit special in this regard and provide an unique experience, which can quickly bring a punter or newbie in Japan up to speed. They also provide more guaranteed of success, for guys that are not used to non-guaranteed interactions between men and women outside the P4P context or can be a less experienced PUA's plan B for that day.
Much of what will be listed, will be true for the free or less costly alternatives of Speed Dating & International Parties.
Similarities to PUA & Lessons To Learn:
1) We are all COMPETING
Many guys don't relaize or are fully cognizant that they are not the only one after a specific woman. Their focus zooms in on a woman, and they think it's all about them. When actually, you were the 3rd guy today to approach her or 3 others will approach after you this day or week.
And on the flip, women are competing with each other too. She's not the only one, that you can approach.
A Date Cafe usually puts all of that in 2 rooms. All the guys in 1 room, and all the women in another. Speed Dating & International Parties in 1 room. You, the guy, can now see all the competition around.
When it comes to getting that woman to choose YOU and not the other guy, how do you stack up? And, why did you choose her and NOT the other women?
2) Appearance; how you present yourself
Now that you know, that you are competing with other men, let's address your appearance. The guy next to you is shaved, smells good, and well dressed. Do you think looking like a homeless guy from off the street will make women want to choose you?
It now becomes much more apparent, even with women that you are negotiating P4P with, that how you look and present yourself counts. And it's NOT the best looking guy always win. It's the COMBINATION of how you dress, talk, possibly language ability (Japan), personality, and what you are offering her. What are you showing her that's better than what other guys are offering? What is she showing you, that's better than what other women are showing?
3) Body Language & Facial Expressions
This is especially important for guys not familiar to PUA. In many Date Cafes there are 2 way mirrors. It gives a unique opportunity to study women. How they dress, make up, fashion.... What is it that you like about a woman/Japanese woman? At Speed Dating Parties or International Parties, you can STUDY how women react to guys approaching them. Not just negative reactions, but the positive female reactions too.
After you had 1 on 1 time or conversations with a woman, think about her face and body language, and how she reacted to what you said.
4) Negotiations
Something great about Date Cafes, is they make negotiating more obvious than even social events or regular dates. For those that have never tried it, those 5 to 10 minutes can be pressured packed, as the guy tries to convince the woman to leave with him and at the right price.
While negotiations are apparent in that context, many guys aren't mindful that's happening in slower speed on a date too. Instead of 5 or 10 minutes, you have 3 to 6 hours or so to CONVINCE the woman to have SEX with you or start an intimate relationship.
Instead of using money, you are (in a way) selling YOURSELF to her. You have become the currency instead. You are convincing her that you are such a good option (now and in the future), that she wants to reward you with sex or she wants to start a special relationship, in order to keep you around and not go elsewhere to other women.
When a man understands that he's presenting himself and in a negotiation to convince a woman, then he has greater awarness over others that don't. To include having greater awarness than many women he is talking to on a date, thus he has the advantage. The first objective is to convince her (or her subconscious mind) that she would want to have sex or start a special relationship with you, before you actually have sex.
5) Language
The great thing about Date Cafes or Speed Dating/International Parties, is they are a great opportunity to practice your Japanese and conversational skills. These are the SAME skills a guy would use in PUA/Nampa.
Note- If you get a woman's e-mail or LINE ID, you can use the messaging to practice your Japanese too. Google Translate and smartphone language dictionaries are your friend.
6) Planning Where To Take Her
So she leaves with you from the Date Cafe or Speed Dating event, and now where do you go?
Even in the P4P context, there is no escaping planning. Which Date Cafe or Dating Party to go to? What's around that area? What restaurants and hotels are nearby? Instead of running from it and being that clueless guy where a woman is wondering what the hell is wrong with you, be like a BOSS.
The guy that plans out things in advance has the advantage. The difference for PUA between a Date Cafe or Speed Dating/International Party, is the guy should be doing a bit more planning about the location in advance. When you invite a woman out on a date, you should be very familiar about the area. It should be an area that you, the guy, chose.
7) The Jump To PUA
After a guy has done Date Cafes or these Date Party events several times, a guy can be much more clear about what's going on with Japanese women.
The jump is that instead of thinking you need to go to a particular place to "get women", you can open your mind and realize that you can meet women ANYWHERE. You can have a conversation with a woman at the 7-11 or McDonalds, get her confact info, and then ask her out on a date.
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