Dude… 😂😭If you can find some swinger-type that's fine with open relationships then marry her if you like, but know that she's probably emotionally-damaged and sure-as-fuck not mother material.
For the record I liked Alice’s post and no, that’s not a butt-dial type of likeDude… 😂😭
Why is it ok to cheat without a guilty coincidence but not to have an honest talk with your life partner and allow both parties fair play?
And like it or not, the people who sleep around the most are the most likely to be parents.
First because I like the concept of guilty coincidence
I’m a proud daddy. Not only the sugar type .
Dude… 😂😭
Why is it ok to cheat without a guilty coincidence but not to have an honest talk with your life partner and allow both parties fair play?
And like it or not, the people who sleep around the most are the most likely to be parents.
"I'm your motherfuckin' conscience"
Are you salty then?
Well you can be a shitty spouse without necessarily being a shitty parent…. Kids learn to see the difference over time .Oh, I'm not trying to declare one thing moral and another immoral. After all, I'm a former political operative. Moral Relativism is our version of religion. I've done things that normal people would find obscenely reprehensible, and I'm actually proud of them.
All I'm saying is--and a whole lot of the regulars here will admit this, even if only privately--that a home where daddy is constantly cheating on mommy (or vice versa) is not a healthy place to raise children. Almost inevitably you will create damaged kids who will act out and risk their futures. And if by "fair play" you mean open relationships (e.g., Will and Jada Smith) then I'm a huge fan and was happily in that mix with a couple of friends before I got married. But as far as starting a family, which obviously requires unprotected sex with spouse, I certainly wouldn't enter into such an arrangement with a woman I knew currently had regular and multiple sex partners. We all have our own acceptable risk quotas but call me cautious, I suppose.
But the world has a place and purpose for everything, even shitty fathers. I got to lose my virginity with a classmate during my sophomore year in high school, all thanks to a shitty father. No complaints here.
You might not be able to literally take six months off, but, yes, a long trip to SE Asia (Angeles City and/or Pattaya) as a sex tourist might help you to either get things out of your system or else realize that you have become a hardcore hobbyist.You're 34 and still haven't figured yourself out. That's Warning Sign #1. Then, you've been in long-term relationships and cheated on your partner doing P4P and then you feel guilty about it. That's Warning Sign #2. What that tells me, and I'm absolutely not trying to criticize you, is you're of indecisive and weak character. A strong character would either 1) stay faithful to a partner he intended to have a future with (but you already knew you were tired of her), or 2) cheat on her and be perfectly proud of it. Nothing wrong with either path.
You have no idea what direction you want to take in life, you're almost 40 and at this point in life all you know is that you love a rotating assortment of vagina. Honest advice? Don't get married (at least to a normal girl) and for sure don't have kids yet. You're destined to fuck up your marriage and, worse, fuck up your kids. If you can find some swinger-type that's fine with open relationships then marry her if you like, but know that she's probably emotionally-damaged and sure-as-fuck not mother material.
"DLEE." Can I assume from this that you're Korean? If so, I can then assume that you can blame your uber-Christian nutjob upbringing for most of your guilt and self-hate. When you were 13, Pastor Cho and the congregation convinced you that masturbating and banging your classmates was a sin so you had a repressed youth. Now that you're old, it's coming back to haunt you.
Honestly, if I were you, I'd take a six month sabbatical and go live in either Thailand or the P.I., preferably the latter. You said you're financially ok, right? Take $30k with you and go rent a small flat in A.C. Go out and bang the living shit out of every bar girl that strikes your fancy, EVERY FUCKING DAY. Three, four, five, ten...however many girls your 34yo dick/balls can handle. Get all that repressed Korean Bible Camp bullshit out of your system. Fuck a few (dozen) ladyboys, while you're at it, just to make a point. Who knows? You might like it. But put your dick in anything and everything you possibly can, act out every disgusting fetish you've ever had, and then do it another fifteen times.
Then come home and re-evaluate your emotional situation. You might find that you're a very changed person, and perhaps ready to decide whether to become a family man...or perhaps you'll come to the realization that you're destined to just rock on in life banging ladyboys in the WalMart parking lot. Either situation can be a win.
Well you can be a shitty spouse without necessarily being a shitty parent…. Kids learn to see the difference over time .
Well, as the Godfather said, that’s the price you pay for the life you choose…With "over time" being the operative phrase, right? Now, I'm not going to try starting a debate about proper parenting on TAG, of all places, but no sane person can state that a household where daddy or mommy is out banging multiple partners all the time is a healthy place to raise kids. It's not, and it absolutely will fuck them up. Attending high school and later teaching high school made that clear enough. And again, I'm not trying to posture as some moral authority figure. I'm fundamentally a royal piece of shit, but I draw the line at letting your perversions hurt kids. And believe me, it's not a pleasant path to walk.
On a side note, I may be getting drafted (again) into the national GOP fight to stop Trump from getting nominated. Guess I can't help myself. What energy and enthusiasm I can't expel into the asscrack of a tidy ladyboy I therefore consolidate and donate to politics. Once more unto the breach, or whatever that saying is.
ROOKIE!! That was Hyman Roth. "And I said to myself, this is the life we've chosen!!" Sorry, when other little kids were playing with action figures and dolls and such shit, I was watching Goodfellas, Godfather I, II (not III) and Casino on VHS.Well, as the Godfather said, that’s the price you pay for the life you choose…
But you are right. (Happy?) Yes, it’s overall better for the kids if mum and dad are happily in love . And not alcoholics. And totally sane. And financially secure. And having a nice house with a lawn and cute dog. Kid could still grow to become the Unabomber or similar POS but at least it’s not their fault…
HereticROOKIE!! That was Hyman Roth. "And I said to myself, this is the life we've chosen!!" Sorry, when other little kids were playing with action figures and dolls and such shit, I was watching Goodfellas, Godfather I, II (not III) and Casino on VHS.
But that's just another example of the cruel nature of life. You only develop those exquisite desires when you're at an age and place in life when it's no longer appropriate. If only I could've had a hankering for 50yo MILFs and Miran when I was age 23, I would've been up to my fucking ears in pussy (and asshole). BUT for now, I walk the straight and narrow and live vicariously through TAG reviews.
I just don’t like that “emotionally damaged” label for women. What does that even mean? TAG is filled with raging alcoholics but still this label seems reserved for women.Oh, I'm not trying to declare one thing moral and another immoral. After all, I'm a former political operative. Moral Relativism is our version of religion. I've done things that normal people would find obscenely reprehensible, and I'm actually proud of them.
All I'm saying is--and a whole lot of the regulars here will admit this, even if only privately--that a home where daddy is constantly cheating on mommy (or vice versa) is not a healthy place to raise children. Almost inevitably you will create damaged kids who will act out and risk their futures. And if by "fair play" you mean open relationships (e.g., Will and Jada Smith) then I'm a huge fan and was happily in that mix with a couple of friends before I got married. But as far as starting a family, which obviously requires unprotected sex with spouse, I certainly wouldn't enter into such an arrangement with a woman I knew currently had regular and multiple sex partners. We all have our own acceptable risk quotas but call me cautious, I suppose.
But the world has a place and purpose for everything, even shitty fathers. I got to lose my virginity with a classmate during my sophomore year in high school, all thanks to a shitty father. No complaints here.
Let's be honest - the majority of men are emotionally damaged or stunted, often beyond repair. I think women get the label because it's less common for a woman to be emotionally screwed up. For us men it's so normalised that most of us brag about the toxic traits that come with it.I just don’t like that “emotionally damaged” label for women. What does that even mean? TAG is filled with raging alcoholics but still this label seems reserved for women.
I think women get the label because it's less common for a woman to be emotionally screwed up.
That's pretty harsh. Some people go through life differently. Some people have their first sex experience at a later age.You're 34 and still haven't figured yourself out. That's Warning Sign #1. Then, you've been in long-term relationships and cheated on your partner doing P4P and then you feel guilty about it. That's Warning Sign #2. What that tells me, and I'm absolutely not trying to criticize you, is you're of indecisive and weak character. A strong character would either 1) stay faithful to a partner he intended to have a future with (but you already knew you were tired of her), or 2) cheat on her and be perfectly proud of it. Nothing wrong with either path.
You have no idea what direction you want to take in life, you're almost 40 and at this point in life all you know is that you love a rotating assortment of vagina. Honest advice? Don't get married (at least to a normal girl) and for sure don't have kids yet. You're destined to fuck up your marriage and, worse, fuck up your kids. If you can find some swinger-type that's fine with open relationships then marry her if you like, but know that she's probably emotionally-damaged and sure-as-fuck not mother material.
"DLEE." Can I assume from this that you're Korean? If so, I can then assume that you can blame your uber-Christian nutjob upbringing for most of your guilt and self-hate. When you were 13, Pastor Cho and the congregation convinced you that masturbating and banging your classmates was a sin so you had a repressed youth. Now that you're old, it's coming back to haunt you.
Honestly, if I were you, I'd take a six month sabbatical and go live in either Thailand or the P.I., preferably the latter. You said you're financially ok, right? Take $30k with you and go rent a small flat in A.C. Go out and bang the living shit out of every bar girl that strikes your fancy, EVERY FUCKING DAY. Three, four, five, ten...however many girls your 34yo dick/balls can handle. Get all that repressed Korean Bible Camp bullshit out of your system. Fuck a few (dozen) ladyboys, while you're at it, just to make a point. Who knows? You might like it. But put your dick in anything and everything you possibly can, act out every disgusting fetish you've ever had, and then do it another fifteen times.
Then come home and re-evaluate your emotional situation. You might find that you're a very changed person, and perhaps ready to decide whether to become a family man...or perhaps you'll come to the realization that you're destined to just rock on in life banging ladyboys in the WalMart parking lot. Either situation can be a win.
Also, going somewhere to have sex everything under the sun for six months, including lady boys in parking lots, isn't a good idea.
You didn't experience his background or upbringing so please don't lecture him like a 12 year old.
Also, going somewhere to have sex everything under the sun for six months, including lady boys in parking lots, isn't a good idea.
Spending 6 months in a third world country having sex with cheap sex workers is not "the second best idea"Yeah but not everyone can do a full year so they have to go with the second best idea.
TED talk my ass. You don't care whether your wife puts out because you use p4p. End of story. Quit acting like your shit don't stink.I'm married, and I fuck around a little for fun and self-exploration but am careful not to let it adversely affect my life (one reason why I am grateful for the existence of P4P).
I have a great relationship with my kids, and I really don't care whether my wife puts out because (a) I don't actually need to bust a nut on any particular schedule, and (b) even if I want to, I can just shamelessly jerk off to some of the excellent sexual memories I have built up over the years.
At the end of the day sex is not your purpose as a human being, except to the extent it actually results in procreating or raising a child -- otherwise, it's just another dopamine rush that wears off quickly. You can get a similar effect from drugs or video games or extreme sports or strong flavors of food. All of these things are addictive for the same biological reason. Too many of us guys put sex on a pedestal as the ultimate goal of life when it isn't even something that will register in the longer term. Do you really think you'll ever lie on your death bed trying to count the number of times or people you fucked? I won't, but I will regret a lot of the time and energy I spent chasing pussy when I could have actually been improving myself or making a difference in other people's lives...
Marriage for men is a massively bad deal in many cases. You are locking yourself in with a partner who is likely to become much less sexual and much less physically attractive over time. Too many men approach marriage as if they are never going to find the same kind of woman ever again, which is just stupid-ass self-defeatist thinking. You will find better women in the future, and if you are married, you will be very limited in the kind of relationship you can enjoy with them.
IMO, marriage for men only makes sense as a partnership for the purpose of creating a stable environment to raise children, and you have to make a conscious tradeoff of personal freedom in order to get that. That is what I did, and yes, I sometimes regret not being able to offer to take a hot chick on vacation somewhere for a week and fill her with sperm several times a day, but that would also be incompatible with having well-raised kids in the future, which I know will matter a lot more to me in the long run.
Your mileage may vary greatly, but basically, it pays to take a 35,000' view of these things and think about what you really want your life to be about.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.