Black Mage
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This might actually be quite valuable, indeed. I personally would like to know what sort of social/cultural cliché one could accidentally enact by sheer lack of knowledge and/or ignorance, and what potential side effects it might have (collateral damage control is important).
This is very extreme (I think). It would never occur to me that yielding such trivial and insignificant decision (in the greater scheme of things) making to others (or delegating, if you wish) could have such profound effect on the way how someone is going to perceived. To me, this is (was) being flexible and sensible, and act of "being manly" would rather entail something along the lines of jumping into a scorching building to save a little cute kitten from certain calamity unfolding.
Interesting insight into their way of thinking - I need to remember this and get my priorities straight should something like that happen to me (which would be a clear choice of somewhat spicy Chinese food to push them out of their comfort zones).
Black.
Not taking any sides here, since I believe that you're both right in a way. But if you turn this conversation around, you can take some pointers about how NOT to behave.
This might actually be quite valuable, indeed. I personally would like to know what sort of social/cultural cliché one could accidentally enact by sheer lack of knowledge and/or ignorance, and what potential side effects it might have (collateral damage control is important).
For example, a gaijin friend of mine didn't happen to know the area while he was out and about with a group of female acquaintances. When the topic "where should we eat?" came up, he didn't have any strong opinions about the matter, and left it for the girls to decide. Because of that the girls afterwards pointed out that he isn't "very manly".
This is very extreme (I think). It would never occur to me that yielding such trivial and insignificant decision (in the greater scheme of things) making to others (or delegating, if you wish) could have such profound effect on the way how someone is going to perceived. To me, this is (was) being flexible and sensible, and act of "being manly" would rather entail something along the lines of jumping into a scorching building to save a little cute kitten from certain calamity unfolding.
Interesting insight into their way of thinking - I need to remember this and get my priorities straight should something like that happen to me (which would be a clear choice of somewhat spicy Chinese food to push them out of their comfort zones).
Black.