I'm sooooo fucking jaded

[majimekun]

I'll be 48 very soon and having 20 years old girls in my bed hardly makes me hard anymore.
I have a crazily hard boner almost every single morning but being naked with these young ladies doesn't excite me anymore. Did I have too much of it already? How do I bring back the excitement?

 

[Frenchy]

I'll be 48 very soon and having 20 years old girls in my bed hardly makes me hard anymore.
I have a crazily hard boner almost every single morning but being naked with these young ladies doesn't excite me anymore. Did I have too much of it already? How do I bring back the excitement?

Try something different ... mature ladies, men, trans, sex dolls, cars exhaust pipes... dunno but as long as its legal and it floats your boat, you will be fine . Explore new horizons!

 

[MikeH]

Try something different ... mature ladies, men, trans, sex dolls, cars exhaust pipes... dunno but as long as its legal and it floats your boat, you will be fine . Explore new horizons!

Or stop having sex for a month. Go cold turkey, no sex, no masturbation, no watching porn in the net, no nothing. I actually don't think you'll make it to the end of the month.

 

[Mr Cat]

Yeah I was gonna say try to stop all masturbation as well as no porn. Then your libido will come back

 

[CharlieSimms]

Exactly that. Stopping masturbation for at least 90 days should probably solve the problem. Even more effective would be to just give it up for good. Probably can have decent sex even after maybe just 30 days or so but best to keep hands always above the waist to avoid any relapse. Brain on porn indeed is counterproductive to wanting to have good sex with real women. Though if you don’t masturbate to porn at all now I would indeed be puzzled as to what the issue could be.. Maybe best to ask a doctor...

 

[MikeH]

Even more effective would be to just give it up for good.

Uncle Mike's Church of Spinners prohibits self-abuse totally and with no exceptions. Instead we promote all other kinds of sex acts because all sex is not dirty; sex is dirty only when it's done properly.

 

[UnicornHunter]

Preparing for my recent trip I kept it in my pants for a few days. By the time the first appt arrived I could barely keep it contained.
As the quantity continued through the week, dick fatigue did set in. Need to space it all out better.

 

[majimekun]

Exactly that. Stopping masturbation for at least 90 days should probably solve the problem. ...

Guys, I don't masturbate nor watch porn since I have one or two young girls staying at to my place at least once a week.

I could ask them to stop visiting me but then I'd become sexless for a while since they'd probably forget about me. And you know it's not that easy to find these.

Anyway, having them naked with me isn't kinky enough anymore ... which is a problem.

And I'm not into SM/BDSM/3P/Swinging etc.

I'd never go younger than 19 but hypothetically, I'm pretty sure that it still wouldn't be kinky enough.

If it was a health issue like a lack of testosterone I don't think I would have a boner every morning.

It seems its because of my current mindset. I don't have "holy shit!"-like moments anymore.
It's just another young and naked body ready to shag.

 

[Durg50]

If it was a health issue like a lack of testosterone I don't think I would have a boner every morning.

I learn so much from this site. I was about to say this was wrong but did a bit of research and realised my long held ‘knowledge’ that morning wood happened to stop you peeing was totally wrong.

 

[Merica]

Guys, I don't masturbate nor watch porn since I have one or two young girls staying at to my place at least once a week.

I could ask them to stop visiting me but then I'd become sexless for a while since they'd probably forget about me. And you know it's not that easy to find these.

Anyway, having them naked with me isn't kinky enough anymore ... which is a problem.

And I'm not into SM/BDSM/3P/Swinging etc.

I'd never go younger than 19 but hypothetically, I'm pretty sure that it still wouldn't be kinky enough.

If it was a health issue like a lack of testosterone I don't think I would have a boner every morning.

It seems its because of my current mindset. I don't have "holy shit!"-like moments anymore.
It's just another young and naked body ready to shag.

What about throwing in some Viagra or Cialis for a little pharmaceutical help when you need it and then distract yourself with other things like the guys suggested when not fucking? Might just be the bump and relief of pressure you need to get your mind off it...

 

[Durg50]

Guys, I don't masturbate nor watch porn since I have one or two young girls staying at to my place at least once a week.

If you are just having sex once or twice a week and not masturbating on the other days, Id say your sex drive isnt particuarly high.

 

[Thoriumwalker]

Try something different ... mature ladies, men, trans, sex dolls, cars exhaust pipes!

Went from oh that's good advice to what the fuck?!! Pretty quick there Frenchy.Exhaust pipe? Now I wanna try. Any holes for electric car users?

 

[majimekun]

I learn so much from this site. I was about to say this was wrong but did a bit of research and realised my long held ‘knowledge’ that morning wood happened to stop you peeing was totally wrong.

What? You never peed with a boner??
The only difficulty is to aim correctly in the proper direction.

 

[majimekun]

Went from oh that's good advice to what the fuck?!! Pretty quick there Frenchy.Exhaust pipe? Now I wanna try. Any holes for electric car users?

Well, even anal sex got me bored.

 

[majimekun]

What about throwing in some Viagra or Cialis for a little pharmaceutical help when you need

I really want to avoid taking these.
For two reasons:
1. I think my problem is a only a mindset problem
2. Taking these will make my organism reliant on them

 

[majimekun]

If you are just having sex once or twice a week and not masturbating on the other days, Id say your sex drive isnt particuarly high.

I've always been like that as far as I can remember.
Except that I've never been jaded about sex before.
Which is my main concern.

 

[majimekun]

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325305.php#frequency

For instance, if a person has NPT but cannot get or maintain an erection during sexual activity, doctors can rule out issues such as insufficient blood flow or nerve responses in the penis. If this is the case, ED may be a psychological issue, and a health professional can treat it accordingly.

However, if a person has no nocturnal erections and has trouble getting or keeping erections related to sex, doctors may determine that there is a physical cause of ED.

 

[GraphicMig]

Have you tried doing it somewhere else besides your bed? Kitchen, dinner table, parks, cinemas..
Maybe also a bit of stripteasing before the act might get you going.

 

[Rusty Trombone]

Personally I'd swap to older women who you have more in common with. IMHO under 25s, unless they show unusual maturity, cannot maintain a conversation, and as you get older, the gap between shots gets longer and you need to fill them.

 

[majimekun]

Have you tried doing it somewhere else besides your bed? Kitchen, dinner table, parks, cinemas..
Maybe also a bit of stripteasing before the act might get you going.

The problem is that I know I'd already have the mental image of her naked and being ready to fuck ... which would make such role playing useless. I've become insanely too practical, I can't indulge myself into fantasies anymore.

 

[majimekun]

Personally I'd swap to older women who you have more in common with. IMHO under 25s, unless they show unusual maturity, cannot maintain a conversation, and as you get older, the gap between shots gets longer and you need to fill them.

Actually, the two girls I have are very fun to talk to and have great conversations.
Great conversations aren't the things that give me an instant boner anyway.

 

[Thoriumwalker]

Majineku

I'll be 48 very soon and having 20 years old girls in my bed hardly makes me hard anymore.
I have a crazily hard boner almost every single morning but being naked with these young ladies doesn't excite me anymore. Did I have too much of it already? How do I bring back the excitement?

Majimekun have you tried ballbusting? Search Midget ballbusting when you have a chance or check ballbust subreddit. Here's a sample NSFW ALERT!!!!

https://muchozucko.com/4920/Livin-on-a-prayer

 

[Durg50]

Personally I'd swap to older women who you have more in common with. IMHO under 25s, unless they show unusual maturity, cannot maintain a conversation, and as you get older, the gap between shots gets longer and you need to fill them.

Lol what kind of early 20’s people are you talking to? These are fully grown adults you are talking about here.

 

[Acid Burn]

How do I bring back the excitement?

Change up the girls.

Guys, I don't masturbate nor watch porn since I have one or two young girls staying at to my place at least once a week.

I could ask them to stop visiting me but then I'd become sexless for a while since they'd probably forget about me. And you know it's not that easy to find these.

Anyway, having them naked with me isn't kinky enough anymore ... which is a problem.

Perhaps it’s the guaranteed sex with a young thing that’s the cause of the boredom. Maybe you need the challenge, that uncertainty of maybe not getting the sex, to make it exciting again. This isn’t even necessarily only relevant to sex either. Don’t all sure things kind of get boring over time?

 

[Frenchy]

Change up the girls.


Perhaps it’s the guaranteed sex with a young thing that’s the cause of the boredom. Maybe you need the challenge, that uncertainty of maybe not getting the sex, to make it exciting again. This isn’t even necessarily only relevant to sex either. Don’t all sure things kind of get boring over time?

I think you’re onto something here. A tew times I had sugar dates which were very pleasant except I did not feel horny and the sex part became like a chore. Or I skipped it completely. Usually happened when I was already exhausted a few days before by a “savage” type of lady, and/or stress , booze etc.... lets face it when you get older you just don’t have the same libido and thats just the way it is.
But for the OP the obvious advice seems to have sex... in the morning (assuming his ladies stay overnight or can meet him for breakfast )