1) "Because you're chasing too many rabbits at the same time.
I don't have this problem at all."
Reply- Nah, not chasing too many. Only chase as many as my schedule allows and as suits my taste.
Also, there isn't a problem if people are honest and keep promises.
And women juggle guys, more than guys admit to (ego) or know of. I can tell you some stories about married chicks that can make guys hair fall out.
2) "The difference is that the Japanese are VERY busy.
They are way too busy to possibly offer an alternative date. They don't have other slots available most of the time.
You simply have to deal with it
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Reply- That Japanese are busier than everybody else is one of the biggest lies ever sold. It's called TIME MANAGEMENT.
You have to eat, sleep, shower, etc... Nobody is working 24/7 except robots at the factory.
There is ALWAYS an alternate time slot. It's a matter of WHO is the guy and WHAT activity is occupying that time slot ;-)
And when you breakdown what these so-called busy Japanese are doing, you often see that a lot is quasi frivolous. I will go to the musuem on that day, meeting my girlfriends on this day, going jogging on the other day. It's fillers where they could possibly make time for a person, it just depends.
3) "Well, if the dates are only for sexual purpose, you're just a walking sex toy for them so what do you expect really?
In my case, they want a serious relationship so they would do almost anything to get that."
Reply- I have serious relationships and have lived with Japanese women for months/years (in different relationships).
And, contrary to old fashioned beliefs, women enter relationships for sex too. Women are not trying to marry every man that they meet nor do they.
If not sex, you occupy that time with some type of activity. Considering that Japan has an abnormally LOW sex frequency per week in comparison to other countries, sex should be considered.
4) "It might be related to work.
People in Japan are tied to their job and work related duties take precedence over private fun.
I have friends (men and women) and for example one had to work every week-ends during the last two months (so not a single day off!), the other one is back home after midnight almost everyday."
Reply- I WORK with and manage Japanese personnel. I'm aware of what many are really doing. Often they give the appearance of work and are purposely inefficient. They stay at work due to group pressure, not because there is so much work, or they have no personal/social life. Work is their social life, no life outside of work, which is sad.
5) "From what I understand, you have difficulties adapting to the japanese culture.
Your expectations quite don't fit with the local way of thinking
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Reply- OK, now that just went off the tracks. I've been in Japan for quite a while. I'm quite well adapted to living here.
I've also adapted to all the lying, sneakiness, and tricks that too many Japanese women play. My complaint is more about how unnecessary the games are, and being forced to do COUNTER-measures.
I can setup 2 dates for 1 day, because too many Japanese women are flaky or can't keep a promise. But the question remains, why not keep promises and not be sneaky?
And I don't mind to keep 3 or 4 women on rotation, if they are too "busy" to have a life outside of work or can't get away from their girl group (group pressure) I'm just willing to question the reasons behind what people do.