This may seem strange as well, but although I'm married...I feel the same way lol. I can't take women to my place because my wife is there. I can't invite myself to their places...and the mention of going to love hotels with like 99.99% of Japanese women makes them too uncomfortable to even be an option. I have had some interesting flirtations with women I passed on the streets, but it never leads to any sex lol. They always are "busy", "already have a boyfriend, husband" and sometimes they just aren't interested.
I talked about this a bit in the Nampa/PUA section.
It's usually best NOT to ask a Japanese woman that you haven't had sex with yet to go with you to a love hotel. You usually will put her on the spot, where she is worried about her public image, and will often automatically say "no", even if she likes you and is horny.
Oddly, AFTER you had sex, then you can mention the "hotel" word without any problems. She doesn't have to defend her "image" anymore, as you've seen her naked.
The best way, on the initial dates, is usually to seduce her and get to the point you are kissing. Find some place where you can pull this off. Kissing, especially for many Japanese, shows clear sexual interest in you.
Then tell her you want to go for a walk or let's go. You have to do this move like a boss. You then walk to the hotel, then go straight IN. Don't over do the kissing at the previous location, before going for a walk. Within 30 minutes of when you started kissing her, walk to the hotel.
My experience, over many years, is that 90% of the time the Japanese woman will come into the hotel with you. Most of the 90%, I would say 75% knew exactly what was up from the kissing and you deciding to get up and leave.
Many Japanese women prefer a guy to NOT discuss, but DO. This is in contrast to many Western women, where many prefer a guy discuss the hotel before going. However, many Western women when being intimate with a guy, can be more sexually open in discussions prior to 1st time sex. This is a strong culture difference, in my opinion.
Of the 90% to come in, 10% may complain a bit. Just reassure her. Maybe say you want to sleep, relax, karaoke (some hotels have that), or take a bath. Often whatever said will be enough, and she will come in.
Out of 100%, you may have a 10% failure rate (90% in, 10% refuse or panic). Like she freaks out in front of the hotel and starts acting like a silly immature kid. Persist a bit, and if you can't and it's like pulling teeth, just then take her to the train station and or taxi. Even in this case, it might not all be lost. Of this 10%, my experience is that some will still see you again. Especially, if you handle the hotel entrance scence by taking control, when she doesn't want to go into the hotel, by deciding to take her to the train station or taxi. Decide that, BEFORE she does. She then may think you understood her feelings on the situation, and despite her rejecting going in, she still likes you. If she meets you again, these women will often have sex on the next date.
