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Here I am talking obviously about Japanese friends.
I am already here in Japan for a couple of years now , and all of my friends are expats living in Japan without a single Japanese friend .
Is it difficult to make friends in Japan , or it is just me ?
Is it difficult to make friends in Japan , or it is just me ?
TrueI I know people who have made many friends thanks to Pikachu!Pokemon Go!
I've done ok so far. No home run but getting thereTrueI I know people who have made many friends thanks to Pikachu!
I'm not speaking for her but it's probably for both.For you or them?
Well said. We find them boring. And they find us intimidating. And they resent our larger penises - with some notable exceptions.After a few decades here and despite speaking the language I can’t really say I have Japanese friends. Colleagues, classmates, clients, acquaintances, girlfriends, sugar babies, heck even a spouse yes, I had, but friends no. Entirely my fault , I don’t even try. To be honest I find them a bit boring
Making acquaintances is easy, making friends is hard. Especially as you get older. I wouldn't worry about it too much as long as you have some people to connect with.
I try to keep things at "arms length". Great people when you're not too close, but things can get a bit toxic and spiral out of control when you start getting closer. This I attribute to differences in upbringing and habituation.
Making acquaintances is easy, making friends is hard. Especially as you get older. I wouldn't worry about it too much as long as you have some people to connect with.
Not everyone can be friended. To quote an old song... “it takes two to make a thing go right.”It is difficult to know them closely and when I tried to approach some of them deeper than the acquaintance level , they were weird and it didn’t last.
I’m not sure how old you are but as others have mentioned, making new friends as an adult is hard. And the type of friendships and what you do as friends can be so different than what it was like in our youthful school days, college days, 20’s, 30’s, etc., just by nature of the responsibilities of life and adulting. Now throw in some cultural and language differences and you’ve just added an extra barrier for both to overcome.Here I am talking obviously about Japanese friends.
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Is it difficult to make friends in Japan , or it is just me ?
I have heard it said so that you can make real friends only up to your university days. I am not sure I agree 100% but there is still quite much truth in there. You form true friendships when you grow together and most of us have done our growing when we enter the workforce. Or rather from that point we only grow sideways physically.
The sad thing about that is, some of us didn't manage to find a good group of friends in our younger years, or moved away from them.
Nothing wrong with some good acquaintances/surface level friends though.
That’s the case for me. My BFF is like a sister to me at this point. We studied in the same field, have similar interests, similar sense of humor, but she is a bit more conservative than me. We have blessed each other with so much kindness over the years. I was there when her first born opened his eyes to this world! (I shed so many tears of joy, lol) When you can establish this level of connection, “acquaintances” appear a bit shallow.. I sometimes wonder why we are so close. Maybe because back then we were both “innocent bohemians”, far away from entering the corporate hell, having financial goals, transparent like the crystal clear shores of our city, and not putting the effort to fit in society. Over time you perfect your facade, but it also becomes harder for others to see the real you.I have heard it said so that you can make real friends only up to your university days..