Frenchy
Peace, Love and Camembert
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1.This is a tough question ! To me I think that there is no such thing as a completely genuine relationship as we all expect to benefit from it in some ways. Which isn't bad as long as the other person benefits from it too. We all want to be loved and to be happy and that's what we are seeking in every relationship in a very selfish way, which again isn't a bad thing. That being said I think that we live in a society where we want the benefits of things without the hustle of working to get them and without the downsides that come with every relationship. That's were sugar relationships kick in. You can shape your perfect relationship with an ideal partner without having to put in the work and without ever seeing the negative sides of it since it is all ruled by money. In some ways we can probably see it as a bridge between a business relationship (based on money) and a relationship (based on an emotional connection). So as in any relationship, both sides of the SR benefit from it but in different ways, financial or emotional.
I don't really know if we can call it "dry", it all depends on what you are looking for. If you are looking for true love or genuine friendship it sure is. But if you only want to enjoy the bright side of having a companion without the drama that comes along you have to put up with it being ruled by money first. It doesn't mean that it is only about money (I think that a lot of SBs are genuinely caring for their SDs) but as long as you can't be your true self around someone (by always putting you best foot forward) there's always a hard line that can't be crossed.
2. Hahaha it depends how well you like to sleep at night
very thoughtful for a young lady (if you are really young... and really a lady )
for 2. Just my personal experience (for what its worth... but I dated about 20 SBs so the sample starts to be statistically meaningful I suppose) , I felt about 20% are genuinely into older guys.
‘doesn’t mean the others can’t pretend well, and doesn’t mean the 20% are necessarily « better ». I stopped caring about those things. Current PhilSB is only 8 years younger , has kids , a husband and a real job so I don’t count her in the sample. I start to think that a wide age discrepancy is not necessarily a good thing for the SD either by the way. 20-somethings are not always the best in the sack , nor have the most interesting conversations, sorry to be blunt
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