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Are you sure you genuinely would like to give her orgasms or what you’re looking for is the gratification you get from being able to make someone climax?
Fair question and to be honest, I don't know 100% as I could be measuring myself by how well I perform. It definitely makes me feel like more of a man when a woman is sexually satisfied... I think that's probably pretty common among men to want to have that ability. So I'd be lying if I said there was nothing in it for me (or my ego) whatsoever. That would especially be the case if I'm out hooking up with random women just having fun. I do agree that being with someone full time, with a lot of communication makes things much, much better.
However, I do really like the idea of being talented enough to be able to GIVE real pleasure to a woman and at least have her stoked. After just going through a tough marriage, the last thing on my mind is committing to a woman again or falling in love. And I know a lot of people say that marriage is a stupid idea anymore and I tend to agree with that, at least from a legal/contractual point of view. It makes sense to do it if you are going to raise children together, other than that, I don't get it.
While having sex with someone I'm totally in love with would be idea, and I would like to think that the idea of love still exists, I am not so sure it does. What I see are people who go through the exciting stage to the content stage to the bored stage to the resentful stage to the apathy stage. Sure, there are some old couples here and there that are still married and in love after 50 years but I think that's very rare these days. I've also seen so many dudes think they are in love and get taken to the cleaners or their hearts broken so refusing to fall in love seems like the right game to play...
I'm just rambling now. I guess I don't know what I want long term, I just know I want the next 20 years to be completely opposite from the previous 20.