Wwanderer
Kids, don't try this at home!
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Yes, you are missing a connection and on one level this is surprising.
I think we just misread each other, nothing more...well, plus maybe a bit of animosity leaking over from an unrelated discussion.
The single word that made me wonder at your point was the last one I quoted from your post in my previous post, namely you wrote "amazing!" I still don't know what you meant by that word, but I read it initially as you saying that it is amazing that your wife is both intelligent + educated AND has a fairly active sex life with you after 14 years of marriage. I was asking myself in what sense is that "amazing". Were you saying that it was amazing that an intelligent+educated women didn't tire of sex with her husband after 14 years...?? My impression was reinforced by the fact that you started out the post by calling yourself "super lucky". I am sure that it is very nice for you, but afaik it isn't actually a rare situation. Lots of men have intelligent+educated wives whose wives still lust for them after 14 (or many more) years of marriage on a weekly (or more frequent) basis. So, again, I am not sure what it is that you consider "amazing" or "super lucky", but I get that my initial interpretation was wrong. If you want to explain what you meant, please do. If you don't, obviously that is completely up to you.
What surprises me, is your apparent failure to connect the whole person of a female with her sex life. Sexual satisfaction is much more complex, at least in ongoing relationships, than the mere physical act.
If that was an accurate description of me, you would be very right to be surprised...especially if you have read any of my reviews or paid attention to my online interactions with the women on TAG to whom I am close. Ask @User#8628 or @MissInsomnia for example. Ask them, privately if you prefer, how much I fail to connect their whole person to sex with them. However, I don't find it "amazing" or think myself "super lucky" that such connections exist and are important. It seems perfectly normal and natural to me. So, just as I appear to have misunderstood your meaning, you appear to have misunderstood mine.
-Ww