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I start a new position few months ago in a big company.
I have been assigned a PA to help me.

It went all right until a month ago when my PA starts to hit on me.
At first I find it amusing and she is very pretty , but now it becomes very stressful for me.

We are only two of us in a close office and she constantly making sexual allusions and wear sexy outfit.
She is my PA so she knows my full schedule , where I go dinner with clients , know my private phone number and where I leave so it very easy for her to meet me even outside work.

I don't know how I can handle it. I have no evidence such as mail or txt. I am worry that if I go to HR she turns the accusations against me.
Anyone had similar situation? and find a way to solve it.
 
have you tried conforonting the PA and asking that they stop the offensive conduct? maybe tell her you appreciate the attention but you are gay or happily married?

could you simply request a new PA and prefer not to provide a reason why?

is it affecting job performance, severe, pervasive, or can you just live with it?

if you can't live with it, create a journal of the incidents, timestamped and email to yourself using PERSONAL email

determine the company policy on harassment, retailiation, how to report. get a copy and keep outside of the workplace in case you need to refer to it if your employment is unexpectedly terminated

you may be able to report it outside of the company, to some equivalent of a state agency/comission.

be aware there may be a time constraint on how soon to file, i'm not sure of japan laws
 
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I had a coworker who used to say really outlandish sexual stuff while we were all out drinking with team members, partners whoever. She’d spurt this stuff in Japanese so it was clearly understood by all.
I had to have a meeting with her to tell her to stop. People may assume I did something to warrant all the stuff she would say but I didn’t.
She quit saying the stuff after that or at least stopped in front of everyone.
 
I discuss with another manager about it.
He thought I was very lucky.....

About my PA, she knows my situation , I am married but for my work I live far from my wife in company apartment. My PA finds the apartment for me...
 
Before you do anything, discuss the situation with your HR management to make sure they are aware of what is going on. This protects you in the event that she tries to turn the tables on you and file a harassment claim if you confront her.

Then document everything going forward, and send the documentation to yourself (offsite) as well.

When you have an established pattern, sit down with her and an HR staffer to discuss why this is inappropriate behaviour.

From there if it continues, you can proceed to disciplinary action. Just be careful at every stage that she doesn’t try to flip the narrative.
 
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My problem is there is no objective things to report and because we are alone in our small office nobody can witness.
Maybe I can record our talk in office .... but it may be a problem to record someone secretly.

Frenchy said:
Just be cool, serious, professional, don’t even reply to her provocations... obviously all those things I would probably not do myself! :D
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if she will not be working with me I will have certainly reply to her.... and I think she knows that.
 
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mr roboto said:
My problem is there is no objective things to report and because we are alone in our small office nobody can witness.
Maybe I can record our talk in office .... but it may be a problem to record someone secretly.



if she will not be working with me I will have certainly reply to her.... and I think she knows that.
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Honestly, there are worse things in life than being sexually harrassed by a cute secretary... heck thats even the fantasy of many many males (yours truely included) and countless porn scenarios :)
 
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You are right , this was pleasant for a while but when it is happening every day and you can only reject her, it becomes hard to manage with work.
 
I never had a PA before but even without the sexual things going on I feel like PA have lot of control over my life as she control my schedule and know all my whereabouts during the week. Maybe I should put more boundaries. I will ask my colleagues how they do.
 
mr roboto said:
I never had a PA before but even without the sexual things going on I feel like PA have lot of control over my life as she control my schedule and know all my whereabouts during the week. Maybe I should put more boundaries. I will ask my colleagues how they do.
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Thats why I don’t need nor want one. But if you’re new to Japan I can understand the necessity.
 
By the by.... am I the only one wondering if this is Yuriko's boss?
 
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You can never be sure how she might change if something happened. If you have a good job I don’t think it’s worth the risk.
 
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I should only stay for another 15 months until my project is over. Maybe she will get bored of it eventually.
 
mr roboto said:
I should only stay for another 15 months until my project is over. Maybe she will get bored of it eventually.
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Following Sudsy’s question , Are you French by any chance ? :)
 
mr roboto said:
I start a new position few months ago in a big company.
I have been assigned a PA to help me.

It went all right until a month ago when my PA starts to hit on me.
At first I find it amusing and she is very pretty , but now it becomes very stressful for me.]


We are only two of us in a close office and she constantly making sexual allusions and wear sexy outfit.
She is my PA so she knows my full schedule , where I go dinner with clients , know my private phone number and where I leave so it very easy for her to meet me even outside work.

I don't know how I can handle it. I have no evidence such as mail or txt. I am worry that if I go to HR she turns the accusations against me.
Anyone had similar situation? and find a way to solve it.
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I can handle her if you want after office hours
 
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Jokes aside, Ive seen this go badly wrong in the past.
She could absolutely fuck you over if she wanted to.
I strongly recommend documenting this with HR. Speak to them and say you are uncomfortable and list out why.
Sounds like you have to spend time with her in an office, but aside from that avoid her. Don't communicate on anything other than your work email or chat application with her and make sure its all recorded.

If things get ugly and it goes to her word against yours, you will lose.
 
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MossBoss said:
If you introduce to a nice guy, she won’t be bothered with you anymore.

If you can’t find any decent guys, some of the TAG guys are always available....
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Decent guys & TAG guys does not seems to match.... but she probably does not want a decent guy as she knows I am married.
 
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I'm available to get her off you back :p hahahaha
 
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