I would never do fs bareback , out of fear of warts. I've only done the full on escorting thing once though, and i even insisted on cbj, so I don't have the experience to judge anyone.
At the same time, I do think I can contribute when discussing risk of HIV.
For all you hetero guys ( and even to a lesser extent gals,) HIV risk has been greatly inflated. In my opinion in the U. S. at least you have two forces- elements from the left and the anti- promiscuity elements of the right, joining hands in a massive psychological cockblock of disinformation.
I say this because I spent a year doing mercenary work in Malawi and learned just how much my generation had been lied to about aids. Malawi is a country truly ravaged by HIV/aids. At one poiny i slipped and fell on a rathet large pool of blood On the floor. Later on when I realized how much got on me i got worried. The docs wouldn't even test me. They said that the vast majority of people with HIV /aids in Africa have a number of other health conditions that make them ripe for infection and illness. One of them chuckled at the idea of my getting tested. There were two instances of actual needle stick and neither of those employees were infected. I had a test back home two years later and was negative. The patient whose blood got on me later died from tb.
I'm saying all this to calm anyone who reads this while dealing with fear nevause of a broken condom. Ive bever gad a broken condom. Never had an infectious disease, and ive pulled security in the most horrific conditions concievable. You can get a lot of stds. No denying that, but if you are not injecting drugs, not having unprotected anal sex, and don't have a Rural Malawian level immune system, you are ok as far as HIV/aids. I say this just because I feel like American cultures paranoia kind of trivializes HIV/aids- guys getting tested because a condom broke during vaginal intercourse.theu need to be tested for the clap, syphillis, etc. Aids does in fact discriminate- it preys on the abused and marginalized. Let's save the resources for the folks actually at risk.
Just my thoughts
HIV is very hard to catch by healthy people, even if they go "bareback", if they are practicing proper hygiene. S
imply taking a shower before and especially after sex will massively reduce risk. Soap and water kills HIV. The virus has a very poor ability to survive outside the body and poor ability to infect. In fact silicone (safe with condoms) based lubricants and certain oil based lubricants (not safe with condoms) are thought to also inhibit the possibility of HIV transmission by creating a barrier to the cells (minus even the condom). And your odds of catching HIV if your partner doesn't have it is ZERO. But people are afraid of each other and to get tested.
With unprotected vaginal sex, many studies have the odds calculated as
1 out of 1,000 or more of catching HIV (IF you have sex with an infected person), and unprotected anal sex at
1 out of 200 (for the receiver and the giver is even less(1 out of 1,000) and
that is without the additional measure of taking a shower after sex or to include a shower before and after.
Toronto Study of unprotected HIV risk has these stats (odds calculated based on being EXPOSED 10,000 TIMES (which is amazing by itself)):
Blood transfusion: 90% (Obvious danger, but blood is screened for HIV now)
Needle-sharing injection or drug use: 0.67% (most dangerous route of transmission)
Receptive anal intercourse: 0.5%
Percutaneous needle stick: 0.3%
Receptive penile-vaginal intercourse: 0.1%
Insertive anal intercourse: 0.065%
Receptive oral intercourse: 0.05%
Insertive oral intercourse: 0.005%
Furthermore, odds of encountering HIV infected people in Asia, and particularly Japan is
far less than in Africa, India, Thailand, or the USA. Even with that stated, the strains of HIV that exist in Northeast Asia are considered less virulent than those in other places.
For Africa, India, Thailand, etc... A large contributor to HIV infection is
poor hygiene, poor health, and a range of other diseases that they may be infected with. Even in the case of HIV infection, if the individual maintains their health (and debatably are on anti-HIV medications), they may live with the infection for over 20 years or even live out a normal life span and not get AIDS. The change from HIV infection to AIDS is considered to be based on overall health, other diseases, and other factors that
still have not been fully understood yet (which is amazing considering how long the problem has existed).
In no way am I'm downplaying the importance of condoms (which are NOT 100% fail-proof by the way). But I agree with GoldenDalton that various special interest groups (both left and right) have perpetuated mass hysteria about HIV versus logic and education. Furthermore,
you are vastly more likely of catching and dying from Hepatitis C than HIV/AIDS. In Asia, you are 3X more likely to die of Hepatitis C than HIV, yet people are virtually clueless about this fact. They tremble at the word HIV, but not Hepatitis C. Amazing, and again, that is thanks to the snow jobs done by special interest groups perpetuating fear for political and social gain.