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I'm in my forties, married and living in the US. We have wonderful kids. Unfortunately our marriage itself has devolved to a sexless formality.
I lived in Japan for more than eight years and I am fluent in Japanese. I'll be visiting Tokyo for a short while in the near future on business.
I am so LONELY, and it has been so LONG! I just want to meet someone and have feelings again. I am hoping to try to connect with a woman for a short-term relationship during my upcoming brief stay. (P4P is of no interest, frankly.)
Could the group please give me some thoughts on the following proposed plans?
PLAN 1: Post ads on Metropolis and Craigslist. Each ad is in BOTH English and Japanese and reads: "White male American businessman, mid-forties, married. Previously lived in Japan for more than eight years, fluent in Japanese. Visiting Tokyo on business next month for ten days. Interested in meeting Japanese woman for Japanese-English language exchange."
The idea here is to give the woman (especially a married woman) plausible deniability. I'd appreciate any comments and thoughts.
PLAN 2: Post ads on Metropolis and Craigslist. Each ad is in Japanese ONLY and reads: "International businessman, white, mid-forties, athletic but a little pudgy, American, sexless marriage. Previously lived in Japan for more than eight years, fluent in Japanese. Visiting Tokyo on business next month for ten days. Interested in meeting married Japanese woman, mid-thirties or older, two or three times during my stay for friendship, sightseeing, and fun."
I've specified "married" and "mid-thirties or older" principally because I don't want to get messages from P4P professionals. I'd appreciate the group's thoughts on whether this sort of thing is a real problem. (And if it is, then are there generally telltale signs that a communication is from a professional?)
PLAN 3: Do both Plan 1 and Plan 2 above, from different e-mail addresses, etc., and perhaps with slight modifications to the text to make the ads seem less alike.
Does it seem likely that these plans might help me attract willing candidate(s)? I'd appreciate any advice, suggested tweaks to the language of the ads, and/or completely different strategies.
BTW, assuming that I get sufficient responses, the plan in each case would be to "stack" the meetings (as Solong has suggested in the past), and to meet women for coffee initially, in an area of Tokyo near business establishments that could permit escalation of the relationship if the opportunity presents itself (as Solong also has suggested in the past).
(I'll also have business cards with a substitute identity and contact information, if I should happen to meet a likely prospect by chance, but because my stay will be short I don't want to rely too much upon that sort of luck.)
Many thanks!
I lived in Japan for more than eight years and I am fluent in Japanese. I'll be visiting Tokyo for a short while in the near future on business.
I am so LONELY, and it has been so LONG! I just want to meet someone and have feelings again. I am hoping to try to connect with a woman for a short-term relationship during my upcoming brief stay. (P4P is of no interest, frankly.)
Could the group please give me some thoughts on the following proposed plans?
PLAN 1: Post ads on Metropolis and Craigslist. Each ad is in BOTH English and Japanese and reads: "White male American businessman, mid-forties, married. Previously lived in Japan for more than eight years, fluent in Japanese. Visiting Tokyo on business next month for ten days. Interested in meeting Japanese woman for Japanese-English language exchange."
The idea here is to give the woman (especially a married woman) plausible deniability. I'd appreciate any comments and thoughts.
PLAN 2: Post ads on Metropolis and Craigslist. Each ad is in Japanese ONLY and reads: "International businessman, white, mid-forties, athletic but a little pudgy, American, sexless marriage. Previously lived in Japan for more than eight years, fluent in Japanese. Visiting Tokyo on business next month for ten days. Interested in meeting married Japanese woman, mid-thirties or older, two or three times during my stay for friendship, sightseeing, and fun."
I've specified "married" and "mid-thirties or older" principally because I don't want to get messages from P4P professionals. I'd appreciate the group's thoughts on whether this sort of thing is a real problem. (And if it is, then are there generally telltale signs that a communication is from a professional?)
PLAN 3: Do both Plan 1 and Plan 2 above, from different e-mail addresses, etc., and perhaps with slight modifications to the text to make the ads seem less alike.
Does it seem likely that these plans might help me attract willing candidate(s)? I'd appreciate any advice, suggested tweaks to the language of the ads, and/or completely different strategies.
BTW, assuming that I get sufficient responses, the plan in each case would be to "stack" the meetings (as Solong has suggested in the past), and to meet women for coffee initially, in an area of Tokyo near business establishments that could permit escalation of the relationship if the opportunity presents itself (as Solong also has suggested in the past).
(I'll also have business cards with a substitute identity and contact information, if I should happen to meet a likely prospect by chance, but because my stay will be short I don't want to rely too much upon that sort of luck.)
Many thanks!