Table manners you don't like about when you date a Japanese girl

[Yuriko]

I'm travelling with my Japanese friend, who is a senior lady, she's married to Japanese man, loves travelling abroad. It's my second time to travel together, and of course we go out for dinner, lunch sometimes, as well.

Even she is pretty well brought, she doesn't have table manners, that I would assume, if she had a dinner with a western man, he would have to face some uncomfortable moment.

Slurp, make noise when she eats, lick fingers time to time, sticks out her toungue licks her lips, makes funny gesture with lips, wave when holding a fork, etc...

Numerous time I get such an annoying moment...

But I like her alot, besides some other minor facto
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What do you come accross, when you find uncomfortable, or don't like about Japanese girls when you take her out?

We can wear nice clothes, be fashionable, but sorry, we mostly have no such table manners..

I remember, I had a cute friend, but when she had green tea, she slurped like a middle aged man...such a shocking factor...

Me? I go often dining with western men that I don't get pointed out so far...I even can eat ramen or noodles without making making a noise much.

How do you put up with, when you have to face it...killing mood noise that you girl made at a date...

 

[User#8628]

I can’t get used to people slurping here really.

 

[Yuriko]

I can’t get used to people slurping here really.

Sorry about that... Some Japanese people find it part of "culture" I guess...It's aweful, when I go to ramen shop and hear the orchestra of "slurpness".

It was funny, when I had a chance went to a ramen shop with American guys, They didn't make a noise, ate ramen quietly, kind of had an "not natural" kind of extreme, but it must be a disaster...

 

[BB0523]

Chewing with mouth open... Don't need to see or hear that.
Talking with food in mouth... Ewww
Elbows on table... It's a restaurant not barracks..
These are the most annoying things to me. It tells me she was never taught table manners or if she was she doesn't care or have self respect...

 

[MikeH]

I can’t get used to people slurping here really.

When I was fresh out of the ship I was taught by my martial arts sensei that eating good food is the same as making love to a beautiful woman.

It might look good, it might feel good but if you ain't making any sounds how you are supposed to know it really is good?

 

[ShowaJidai]

I've pretty much gotten over it. But it is nice when I find the woman i'm with has good table manners.

I couldn't help but be reminded of this commercial -

 

[Yuriko]

Chewing with mouth open... Don't need to see or hear that.
Talking with food in mouth... Ewww
Elbows on table... It's a restaurant not barracks..
These are the most annoying things to me. It tells me she was never taught table manners or if she was she doesn't care or have self respect...

Sorry, we don't get to learn these things, maybe some globally high standard family care abt it.
Next time when you find Japanese lady with bad manners, why don't you send her you tube video abt how to table manner well?

 

[Yuriko]

When I was fresh out of the ship I was taught by my martial arts sensei that eating good food is the same as making love to a beautiful woman.

It might look good, it might feel good but if you ain't making any sounds how you are supposed to know it really is good?

I also heard of that kind of that, but that's only by two lovers at home. Not in public restaurant, please...

 

[warubuta]

I'm travelling with my Japanese friend, who is a senior lady, she's married to Japanese man, loves travelling abroad. It's my second time to travel together, and of course we go out for dinner, lunch sometimes, as well.

Even she is pretty well brought, she doesn't have table manners, that I would assume, if she had a dinner with a western man, he would have to face some uncomfortable moment.

Slurp, make noise when she eats, lick fingers time to time, sticks out her toungue licks her lips, makes funny gesture with lips, wave when holding a fork, etc...

Numerous time I get such an annoying moment...

But I like her alot, besides some other minor facto
r...

What do you come accross, when you find uncomfortable, or don't like about Japanese girls when you take her out?

We can wear nice clothes, be fashionable, but sorry, we mostly have no such table manners..

I remember, I had a cute friend, but when she had green tea, she slurped like a middle aged man...such a shocking factor...

Me? I go often dining with western men that I don't get pointed out so far...I even can eat ramen or noodles without making making a noise much.

How do you put up with, when you have to face it...killing mood noise that you girl made at a date...

Japanese people who think that table manners are important don’t really understand fine dining and how to enjoy a good meal with friends. I agree there are some things that would be considered rude or unacceptable, but you have to be pretty stupid to cross the line - that is of course unless you are eating with a bunch of snobby idiots, which I would never do in the first place. The important thing to do, or I should say not to do, is act like you are following a set of rules that you just learned from a book. There is no faster way to ruin a potentially fun meal. The only things I wouldn’t do are: pick up a soup bowl and drink from it, fart, reach across someone without saying excuse me, belch. There are probably a few others but I can’t think of them right now. The important things to do are: get precariously close to over ordering, make sure everyone gets really, really drunk, don’t look at the prices, talk loudly, but not too loud, like you own the place, make sure everyone laughs a lot. Make slightly suggestive comments to to any women present including the waitress and women at nearby tables if the opportunity presents itself. Shall I go on.

 

[Sinapse]

I find most Japanese (girls especially) to have pretty good table manners, with many of them even automatically serving salad onto small plates or handing chopsticks or utensils out and making sure your drink is topped up, something that would never happen in the West

 

[Rusty Trombone]

Japanese people who think that table manners are important don’t really understand fine dining and how to enjoy a good meal with friends. I agree there are some things that would be considered rude or unacceptable, but you have to be pretty stupid to cross the line - that is of course unless you are eating with a bunch of snobby idiots, which I would never do in the first place. The important thing to do, or I should say not to do, is act like you are following a set of rules that you just learned from a book. There is no faster way to ruin a potentially fun meal. The only things I wouldn’t do are: pick up a soup bowl and drink from it, fart, reach across someone without saying excuse me, belch. There are probably a few others but I can’t think of them right now. The important things to do are: get precariously close to over ordering, make sure everyone gets really, really drunk, don’t look at the prices, talk loudly, but not too loud, like you own the place, make sure everyone laughs a lot. Make slightly suggestive comments to to any women present including the waitress and women at nearby tables if the opportunity presents itself. Shall I go on.

Apart from the not picking up the soup bowl (I wouldn’t do it at a nice western place, but for sure a a Japanese one), we are cut from the same cloth.

Regarding farting, I've often thought of walking up and dropping one on the fuckers at the next table who light up a cig, without any consideration for people around them. Esp families with kids.
I lack the balls to do this but you’re basically saying, I have to breathe in your smoke, so here’s a bit of my gas for your nasal cavity.

 

[Yuriko]

I just couldn't stand of her licking fingers, making chewing sound, I had to tell her,

please use napkin!!!

Put your knife down!

Don't slurp...

God,,,

I won't be able to go dinner or lunch for future...

Such a nightmere...

 

[Viggagadye]

I've found that Japanese girls usually have better table manners than other Asians, notably Korean and Chinese. Especially Japanese girls who have done a bit of travelling, in many cases, they have better table manners than westerners.
Table manners don't bother me too much except loud open mouthed chewing. But loud open mouthed chewing does bother me a lot.

 

[RIDER 00]

I still can't believe some people in society think it's perfectly okay to pick their nose right in front of other people. I have even seen some people eat their picking rewards because they think no one is noticing them. Have seen a few people do this at a dinner table.

The other one was on a train where this cute OL sitting right near the door had a bit of a runny nose. As I was gazing at her beauty, she suddenly starts ramming the tip of her finger into her runny nostril and licking the goo. She did this about 5 times in very quick succession. Eww...

 

[RIDER 00]

I can’t get used to people slurping here really.

As a ramen lover, I'll be the first to apologize! As Mike said, some ramen masters have told me that doing it like you were doing DATY is the best sign of technique.

On a serious side, I'm okay with slurping noodles in a noodle shop setting. When it comes to pasta or other noodles, no way. That's just plain rude and unrefined. Learn to twist the noodles around the fork, geez!

 

[Yuriko]

As a ramen lover, I'll be the first to apologize! As Mike said, some ramen masters have told me that doing it like you were doing DATY is the best sign of technique.

On a serious side, I'm okay with slurping noodles in a noodle shop setting. When it comes to pasta or other noodles, no way. That's just plain rude and unrefined. Learn to twist the noodles around the fork, geez!

I also can't stand slurp sound,,,any sort of...

 

[warubuta]

I just couldn't stand of her licking fingers, making chewing sound, I had to tell her,

please use napkin!!!

Put your knife down!

Don't slurp...

God,,,

I won't be able to go dinner or lunch for future...

Such a nightmere...

Why would you choose such an uncouth person as a travelling companion? Don't you have any acquaintances of your own high level of refinement and couture? I mean the crudeness of it all! I can’t imagine!

 

[Yuriko]

I still can't believe some people in society think it's perfectly okay to pick their nose right in front of other people. I have even seen some people eat their picking rewards because they think no one is noticing them. Have seen a few people do this at a dinner table.

The other one was on a train where this cute OL sitting right near the door had a bit of a runny nose. As I was gazing at her beauty, she suddenly starts ramming the tip of her finger into her runny nostril and licking the goo. She did this about 5 times in very quick succession. Eww...

I thought you'll learn at the age of 5, not to do it. Maybe her parents was too busy making money...

 

[Yuriko]

Why would you choose such an uncouth person as a travelling companion? Don't you have any acquaintances of your own high level of refinement and couture? I mean the crudeness of it all! I can’t imagine!

Thanks for waza waza thinking of the way to resolve my situation. You're so kind(^-^)!!! Well, I tend to travel on my own. I think I prefer that way.

 

[Sawako]

Is this a racist post? Wow, you have gone to dinner with one Japanese lady, so let us throw in mass generalizations - the percentage of obese people (not generalization) is the favor on average towards Japanese nationals or American nationals, for example? People from all cultures have rude people and so forth

 

[Sudsy]

Is this a racist post? Wow, you have gone to dinner with one Japanese lady, so let us throw in mass generalizations - the percentage of obese people (not generalization) is the favor on average towards Japanese nationals or American nationals, for example? People from all cultures have rude people and so forth

You realise that the original poster is also Japanese, no?

 

[warubuta]

Is this a racist post? Wow, you have gone to dinner with one Japanese lady, so let us throw in mass generalizations - the percentage of obese people (not generalization) is the favor on average towards Japanese nationals or American nationals, for example? People from all cultures have rude people and so forth

The original poster is Japanese and she posted about one specific Japanese person who has bad table manners. I dont think it is a racist post. If you want to find racist posts, most of them come from @MikeH and lately there is a guy named @ShowaJidai who I have my eye on because he seems to want to defend a small number of problematic bigots in the otherwise highly commendable US armed forces. I think he is OK though.

I must say though that I find your comment about obese people highly offensive. Why did you need to bring that up? What do you have against fat people?

 

[MikeH]

If you want to find racist posts, most of them come from @MikeH

Happy to be of service! Though you are obviously just a beginner, there is racist or otherwise offensive content in any post if you just have the eye to look for it. It's always a good idea to become the victim and demand a safe place for yourself and your thoughts. If you might have any, that is.

I must say though that I find your comment about obese people highly offensive. Why did you need to bring that up? What do you have against fat people?

Other than that they look ugly, take a lot of space in public transportation and smell bad you mean? Unlike me who is officially slim and good looking, still 200 grams away from the fat circles.

 

[Durg50]

To answer the original question; slurping noodles doesnt bother me that much.

Stuffing your mouth overly full and then speaking seems to be something that japanese guys are taught is endearing or cool because all the guys i work with do it. These are young, succesful decent looking guys ie not socially retarded, but they eat like pigs.

 

[TAG Manager]

Cleaned up the non-sense. Carry on.