Without saying that it is a bad approach (though it is definitely not for me), let me just point out that your whole thinking and conceptualization of interactions with women is dominated by the goal-oriented perspective. Just talking about things like "wasted" opportunities/money/time or "lose out the most" or women having "more options", to say nothing of all the stuff (e.g., success percentages) in other posts by you and
@majimekun and others above (and in other threads) reveals how much your relationships with women are being influenced (and imo restricted).
I doubt you look at interactions with new guys you are meeting in such a constrained way, and I'd bet that you would have a much harder time describing the techniques you use to interact with other men or categorizing them as successful, as home runs or strike outs or whatever. And I suspect you have a much richer and more diverse set of relationships and interactions with males...simply because you are (probably) not imposing such a strong set of preconceived notions or constraints on them.
Basically what I want to point out is that there are other good ways, better in my personal opinion and (50 or so years of adult) experience...very successful experience imo, to handle ones interactions with women. This other way opens up whole new worlds of possibilities by dropping the strong focus on "scoring", on "techniques", on conscious manipulation etc. Maybe better (it is imo) but maybe not, or not for all, but anyway there are alternatives that have very happy consequences.
-Ww
You are mistaken, as myself and many other men use competitive and goal-oriented language and thinking all the time.
1) Sports
We could be playing darts, bowling, arm wrestling, etc... It can be which team or fighter we are betting on or rooting for.
2) No Tolerance For Bullshit
Many guys don't like other dudes lying, bullshitting, conning, being arrogant towards them, etc...
It is no different with women. The purpose of my life isn't to have a woman waste my time, waste my money, manipulate, con, or lie to me. And much of that is true with guys we associate with.
3) Business
Many of us would like to go into the office and tell our bosses to stop with the goals, focus, keeping score, success talk, etc... But it won't happen, because it's just plain reality this is a part of life. Not just business, but life in general.
4) Technique, Skill, & Knowledge
If you are going to do something, many of us rather do it right or even try to be the best that we can be.
Like sex. Would a guy rather have a woman lay there like dead wood and say, "Don't ask anything of me!", or a woman that does her best? And it works in the reverse too, where many a woman appreciate a man doing his best in general and doing his best for her, which often means developing skill and technique.
And not just sex, but cooking, sports, fashion, language study, computers, etc... Not everybody wants to walk through life aimlessly devoid of any skill.