I just discovered this massive thread that appeared during one of my TAG respites.
Wow, absolutely amazed at the number of posts-yes WOW!!!
Since I sometimes miss a few months here and there, I find an interesting thread is shut down before I am able to post.
First of all,
Not Even Dave, sorry I don't feel I know you well enough to call you "Ned," I've admired your previous posts, so we are not complete strangers. You have a real talent with written expression. I always look forward to your threads.
Most of the veteran TAG folks know that I am happily married to a Japanese woman, fifteen years now, with two children, ages ten and thirteen..
I'm in the same boat with most of you in that my wife is a fantastic mother. She exhausts herself taking care of them; driving to soccer and back six days a week. (five days just dropping off and picking up at train station), up early to prepare bento boxes for the kids, constant laundry, cleaning the house (something we do equally), cooking, (me a couple times a week), shopping, and mercy, sometimes when I ask her to translate or call someone for me, she explodes-completely losing her ability to function-on overload. Fortunately, with proper soothing, she recovers and always come through for me.
She doesn't get enough sleep. She's exhausted. I get it.
Yet, that's who she is. She does it to herself. She does it for herself, as well.
She does respond well when I reach out to help and she is getting better at taking care of herself.
And...almost every night we have time together, when the kids are upstairs in bed. We drink a little wine, watch TV, talk.
Sometimes, the talk is her complaining. I call her the "Complain Queen" and tell her that she should be grateful when I give her something to complain about. I know how much pleasure she derives from complaining!
Still, she cuddles up to me every night on the couch. I feel loved and wanted. Yet, if I try to get closer, she moves my hand away, saying, "day after tomorrow," or "this weekend."
When the time comes, about once a week, it's the best sex of my life-not every time, but often! And, if she's on her period or just not in the mood, she'll say, "only you." Not as good as FS, but still pretty good.
I've had many relationships, most of them lasting five years-or should I say, just five years?
I've never been happier in a relationship.