So my take on a few of the concerns raised
1. Cumming to fast
I was very, very late to the party when it came to having sex and the first few times I was lucky to get laid I set a record that would have made a Tesla Roadster proud. I was fortunate in having a partner that was older than me and very understanding. And here is where a hilarious piece of advice came in. She told me "You remember how they say - 'If you''re giving a speech imagine everyone naked.' I said "yes" She smiled and said 'Well when you're with me imagine the opposite. Pretend I'm wearing a potato sack." Well to be fair she would've made a potato sack look sexy but what she said was so funny that I really started relaxing for the first time. She said "What's you're biggest fear?" And I said "Cumming early" And she said " Well now that you've gotten that out of the way there's nothing to worry about is there. And she was right. After that things just got better.
2. Weight Loss
There is a very popular myth that if you want to lose weight you have to hit the gym. This can sometimes (and notice I say sometimes) be counter productive. Now working out is important, especially as you grow older. But I've found that strength training takes precedence over cardio (for men) as we loose muscle mass, bone density and testosterone as we age. Weight training helps reduce/slow down that loss and can sometimes even increase it (depending on your physical condition before)
For cardio doing HIIT is as effective if not more so than jogging three times a week for 1/2 an hour each session. However, there is a caveat jogging outdoors, not in a gym, has other benefits - exposure to nature, feel good hormones etc etc. However, jogging can also be bad for knees and joints (for people like me) so I prefer to do a fast walk outside.
In my opinion, Body weight exercises are better as you age for the very simple reason that it is extremely hard to injure yourself doing push ups, pullups, chin ups, dips, single leg squats etc. You'd have to be doing the exercises with very poor form to hurt yourself. There is a caveat here also I'm afraid. As you loose weight Body weight exercises become easier. However, you can compensate for this by doing variations that will in effect increase the weight you're putting on the muscle.
Calisthenics also has the benefit of being compound exercises so you can work multiple muscle groups more quickly than with muscle isolating exercises in the gym. And you can do it from the comfort of your own home. No gym fees, no dealing with the weather, or transportation. Twenty minutes, two to three times a week and you can get a total body workout that is safe and effective.
Lastly, loosing weight. I mentioned that exercise is not the way and it's true. Conventional diets also don't work as they're not sustainable. However, there is one diet that I've found that is pretty effective and has great sticking power. The 5 - 2 diet. I am including a link to the BBC documentary - The truth about exercise
. A great look at some of the myths and realities of the exercise industry. The host Dr Mosley is also the person who came up with the 5 - 2 diet after doing another special "Eat, Fast & Live Longer"
You can google the 5 - 2 diet but if you'd like some advice on what I did (I went from 200 pounds to 165) let me know.
Best of luck and welcome to TAG
PS Alice, thanks for making me laugh
Only time you'll see me running, you should start running as well because something is chasing me.