Sinapse
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Sitting around and waiting to be approached may be a passive strategy but not necessarily a weak one for those who have women approach them. The man in consideration may have different priorities and reactions to the phenomenon associated with the art of "gaming" as you people call it. The passive man may even perceive the mass "approacher" as weak for his lack of control over his insatiable appetite for attention and companionship. Perhaps the passive man is content with his situation and understands that an overly ambitious disposition does not necessarily correlate with, nor act as a catalyst toward the "end goals" he has in mind, namely a happy existence absent of toil that entail a "go getter" mentality. A man who is comfortable with himself and who may not approach things the way you do is not weak from an objective apriori standpoint. He is weak from a socially constructed standpoint, originating from the societal apparatus that deifies a productive ambitious disposition.
Perhaps the man in question, through his wisdom and his life experiences, has come to a realization that having a more 'stoic' approach to external phenomena has rendered him happier. This may sound overly sentimental to the reader, but if the reader were to disregard arbitrary standards and attitudes towards such sentimentality than my point becomes clearer, and free from the fetters of being subject to ridicule and humiliation.
My point is not to say that approaching is bad or that getting a gym membership should be avoided
By all means, go for it. But perhaps you should consider that the man sitting in the corner not approaching may actually be the strongest man in the bar. As long as this man isn't avaricious or green with envy toward the approacher
Right, and my point is not that running around nonstop is more noble and you aren't like some better person if you are approaching instead of sitting back.
But a lot of people lie to themselves and have negative self talk and all manner of excuses as to why they can't/don't/won't approach (or, for that matter do anything in life: start a business, go to a gym, do anything at all proactive). IMO this is FAR more common and very much the social zeitgeist. Its very deeply rooted in our psyches from a young age that we are very good at using intellectual arguments (or financial ones) to persuade ourselves that we don't actually need or want to approach.
If you're happy with what you have, by all means keep doing what you are doing. I wish nothing more than for people to be happy where they're at!
All I illustrate is just a way to build a life of your design rather than wait for what falls in your lap. For those who think they can do better. I firmly believe most can. But whether they choose to is another question
Yes, I understand it's controversial and yes, I understand many won't get it or will resort to random attacks on my character. I've dealt with that as long as I've been on this site. It's fine and par for the course