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Two scenarios that happened today and how I handled them. In both cases the guy did not get the hint the first time. I'd like to know your suggests for making it obvious I am not interested.
Scene one, bar interior
I sit down and can see the man to my left eyeing me in a way that makes me uncomfortable. I look through the menu, without making eye contact with anyone.
Him: The pizza is good here.
Me: *ignores*
*pause*
Him: The pizza is on the back page.
Woman: He's talking to you.
Me: I'm not looking for pizza.
*man gives up*
Scene two, street exterior
Japanese man approaches me. I never stop walking.
Me: *cross sign*
Him: Do you speak English?
Me: Dame *cross sign*
Him: Do you have a boyfriend?
*man gives up*
While these each as isolated incidents might not seem so terrible, I was in the bar only 20 minutes for a quick bite and walking home for 10. You can imagine how longer periods might play out and how these incidents can add up over a short period of going about my daily life.
In both cases the guys didn't have even the slightest indication that I wanted to talk to them, let alone were interested in them sexually. I do feel that by giving "polite" shows of disinterest it leaves the door open for them to repeat this on the next woman they see. While shouting "I'm not fucking interested" is appealing mentally, I can imagine it might be tiring physically when repeated on a daily basis.
(Also, please don't make this another standard PUA bashing thread. I just want suggestions on how to handle this.)
Scene one, bar interior
I sit down and can see the man to my left eyeing me in a way that makes me uncomfortable. I look through the menu, without making eye contact with anyone.
Him: The pizza is good here.
Me: *ignores*
*pause*
Him: The pizza is on the back page.
Woman: He's talking to you.
Me: I'm not looking for pizza.
*man gives up*
Scene two, street exterior
Japanese man approaches me. I never stop walking.
Me: *cross sign*
Him: Do you speak English?
Me: Dame *cross sign*
Him: Do you have a boyfriend?
*man gives up*
While these each as isolated incidents might not seem so terrible, I was in the bar only 20 minutes for a quick bite and walking home for 10. You can imagine how longer periods might play out and how these incidents can add up over a short period of going about my daily life.
In both cases the guys didn't have even the slightest indication that I wanted to talk to them, let alone were interested in them sexually. I do feel that by giving "polite" shows of disinterest it leaves the door open for them to repeat this on the next woman they see. While shouting "I'm not fucking interested" is appealing mentally, I can imagine it might be tiring physically when repeated on a daily basis.
(Also, please don't make this another standard PUA bashing thread. I just want suggestions on how to handle this.)