it makes me think that it's not such a big deal and trauma that some people make out of it.
I console myself with the thought that circumcision, while unnecessary, will probably not be the worst decision I make for my son. I haven't heard someone complain about what their parents did to them yet (but I suppose I might hear it now ).
Fwiiw, that's roughly my opinion. It is probably better not to circumcise (males), but it really isn't a big deal.
I've also never heard any man complain that his parents had him circumcised. It would be extremely difficult (impossible really) I think for anyone to judge whether or not an adult male had been circumcised by observing his interest in sex, the way he interacts with women, his confidence about performance etc. Jewish men are, of course, nearly all circumcised and are famously sexually oriented. And even outside of sexual matters, it seems to have no effect on anything from success in career to interest in sports to creativity to... Basically the only way to tell is to examine a guy's cock and see if the foreskin is there or not. It is just a trivial bit of cosmetic surgery, quite minor compared to all sorts of routine cosmetic surgeries which are ever more common. It is more in the realm of piercings perhaps.
As for stress on the infant, it is minuscule compared to the trauma of birth which they undergo at roughly the same time...as anyone who has been present at births and infant circumcisions could never doubt! The couple of men I know who had adult circumcisions (for purposes of converting to Judaism) all also report that it was less of a big deal than they expected, both the surgery itself and the effect on their sexual experience.
The intense controversy and strong feelings the topic engenders remind me of the issue of breast feeding vs bottle feeding infants. To hear people talk about it, you'd think it was a choice on the level of aborting a pregnancy or not, but in fact the world is full of indistinguishable people who were and were not breast fed. This is not to say there is no difference nor that there are not significant pros and cons, but it does not seem to me to be nearly the big deal that many make of it.
Still, like most cosmetic surgeries, it is not necessary but also harmless from a medical perspective and a matter of taste from a personal one.
-Ww