The woman I'm now seeing came from Tinder out of all places, just like another one I have lined up. I got a couple dozen likes from women I had to ignore because I do have standards, but I had a couple of women who I'd actually want to be with, you know, with features I found cute/pretty and interesting personalities, and nothing below my (kind of) generous standards. So the girl I'm seeing now is like that, short and chubby with a sweet smile and cute mannerisms. No TLC level obesity, she's someone who takes care of herself, has self-esteem, isn't reeking of desperation... and is legitimately fun to be around and cuddle with. We're both into each other and hey, I'm a simple man. 😁
I guess it's not as easy if the level of women you're compatible with usually gets flooded with gigachad matches, pictures, requests, etcetera. But if you're unconventionally attractive like me it's not all that bad, and while I have to admit it's kind of suboptimal compared to being in the hunt IRL, the anxiety barrier to approach someone is much lower. Another thing I noticed is people who are actually attracted to you (who knew I'd find more than one specimen of this!!) waste no time with games in the app's chat feature. I didn't have to come up with an opener in both the success cases, I just commented something I was interested in from their profiles and chat flowed naturally. I respect the nampa boys here but once again all of that feels kind of pointless for me aside from the common sense advice that comes from it, as the game seemed to be decided from the start.
This is just two cents from a somewhat naive new grad, since people chose to bump this thread in answer to my post.