No worries re: the questions. That is why I've made myself available. Ask away.
There is an informal ranking, maybe I can model it as three levels: top, mid and bottom.
Tops I meet at least every two weeks and reserve weekend time for. These are serious LTRs and marriage candidates. I have to juggle special occasions with them but it mostly works. Most likely to go on trips. Messages at least once every 2 days or so. If she has a meltdown, would try to salvage the relationship.
Mids are similar to top, but less likely to marry. Perhaps very good lays. Usually somewhat LTRs. Still meet in general every fortnight or so. Less likely to have trips together. They are later in line when it comes to special occasions. Less money and time dedicated than tops. Still very much girlfriend level though. Messages at least every 4-7 days. Won't necessarily chase if she has a meltdown and walks.
Bottoms are closer to booty calls. Usually STRs. Meet once a month or so. Avoid meeting if no possibility for sex. Occasional outside dates. Do not take trips together. I am unavaiable for them during special occasions. Low message pace, can sometimes go a week without. Fit them in when I can, basically. Do not mind if they walk. Definitely don't chase. Purely at
my convenience. You'd be surprised how many girls this works for.
Every few months I hop on an app or go on hunts outside and set up dates with new girls, usually on nights earlier in the week (the cheap realestate) like Monday or Tuesday. When plate capacity is full, it can make wooing a new girl hard (timing is
everything) so I try to aim this for times when plates are down. These girls usually start at bottom or mid tier.
I'm required to keep my place spotless: a stray hair that doesn't belong to a girl who visits can end a relationship. I have never had an unannounced visit but I turn my doorbell off when I have company and make it clear turning up unannounced is not okay as I am generally "busy" to preclude it. When I have company, notifications are completely off on my phone, if it isn't in flight mode. Have had relationships killed because another girl suddenly LINE called me at the very time I was showing photos to a girl. One looked like a young Valeria Gorlino. I was gutted.
Also extremely careful about showing things on phone in general:
- pics with or of other girls can crop up, including nudes
- notifications, message previews, calls from other girls can show up
- she may notice you have a dating or even language exchange app installed
- she may notice another girl's name show up in your autocorrect
- once a GAME sent a notification filled with hearts. The girl saw the hearts and that was a big fight. The relationship survived but I'm still not sure she ever believed it wasn't from a girl.
If showing pics or something on phone is part of your game, make sure to sanitise things first. I just avoid.
I seldom call anyone, only when a message conversation becomes emotionally charged, as txting is just no good for fights. I take calls that come when I can and try to reply to messages within 12hrs or so.
Messaging isn't that time-consuming, I don't have big conversations usually. It's usually just pings, or answering questions, or setting up dates. It's the dates, the prep and the aftermath of them that uses time and yeah that does mean less time for me. This is one of my motivations for wanting to retire.
Protip: My phone is always on silent, or on vibrate. I keep everyone on my line list muted, except for whoever I am meeting that day or if I am sexting someone. This makes it very easy to just message when
you feel like it, as you don't have a notification on your phone piquing your curiosity over what is usually a nothing. You can reply to everyone at once too, then come back a few hours and reply to those replies. Much more time and emotionally efficient.
Feel free to ask anything else.