Women have hundreds of matches and messages going at one time... if you don't standout above the rest, you'll never get a message back.
Totally get that but then why match with me then? Is it just because it's free for them and they have nothing to lose? Edit: I'm not sure how am I supposed to standout from the rest either, that's the one million question I'm sure.
Because they do the same as men, nearly swipe on whatever just to have an open pool and see who has the looks+attitude to get their attention.
having annual income 10 million yen or above for starter.
That was very interesting to read, I'm 30 and I noticed that the older you get the harder it gets too, maybe if I was a few years younger I'd be able to pass for a student no worries but since I'm 30 they probably all expect me to be some kind of multi millionaire. Honestly, I think I'll just stick to meeting girls somewhere else, I've been going to international meetings and there are a lot of Japanese women who want to find foreigners that way, a lot only look for white Americans/Canadians/Australians (which I'm not) but I'm pretty sure that's just a few I've met, I've definitely met some interesting people so far, like a girl who told me honestly that my fashion sucks and I won't stand out if I keep up like this but then she offered to go shopping with me. While I enjoy how I look, it's an unassuming look, I appreciate honesty like that.
Most times it's a sausage fest filled with foreigner men and Japanese men, other times it's mostly just foreigners and on rare occasions it's like 20% foreigners and 80% Japanese, tons of women too. My Japanese is still too early to start trying to talk girls randomly but I might try that down the line, eventually, granted I have made a few Japanese guy friends who I might end up meeting their friends and so on. It's obvious that dating apps will never yield anything for me so I gotta' stick to the old fashioned way, it's not easy, it really isn't, especially getting them to keep talking to you on LINE and not ghost you.
The wide world of street nanpa is a great thing to experience. Not to mention a good way to accelerate learning Japanese. Also keep in mind you don't necessarily need Japanese to do street pickup, although it obviously helps.
I haven't actually tried to just hit on girls on the street, only on social spots. I've seen a bunch of dudes try to pick girls randomly and it's just embarrassing haha. Think I'm going to keep shooting my shot at these international meetings until I find something more efficient, at least in these meetings the gaijin hunters aren't just looking for hookups.
Is that you, Leo?
I've hit on girls coming out of clubs before and that's been fine for getting contact info, but my experience hasn't been positive with talking to girls on the streets in traditional "nanpa" places, i.e. hachiko or shinjuku east exit, etc. I see a lot of dudes out there doing it, but I can't for the life of me understand why given how nearly every girl will completely ignore them.
Okay so, I've mostly got the basics of "general" picking up but here's the deal, I'm mostly into nerdy girls (glasses, timid, not really popular) and I feel like I won't find those at either clubs, bars or concerts like you mentioned. There was a guy who told me to just frequent libraries and while studying Japanese (which makes sense since I'm a Japanese language student) I could try to sit down next to a girl I fancy. Now... I have no idea if that's a good idea or not which is why I'm asking here. See plenty of nerdy dudes in Akihabara with their equally nerdy girlfriends so it has to be possible, right?
Just talk to them in English. Some of the best womanizers I have known in this town don't speak a word of Japanese.
Good point, except I'm not good looking enough for the English option to be viable.
The English option as you put it means free English practice to a lot of women. It can work in your favour.
