Solong are most swingers ok with their wives having a lover on the side if they are open about it?
Is the honesty so he can satisfy his needs & she doesn't get upset? Does it work both ways?
I am just curious as many men can't handle this. I'm not saying I can or can't but really just curious on your opinion.
Swingers don't cheat on each other, there wouldn't ordinarily be any side lovers, unless they both know them personally. For example 2 married couples, where husbands swap wives, and they all know each other. They would ordinarily have group sex in front of each other or wife swapping would be pre-approved. There is no jealousy, selfishness, or hiding.
However this requires a level of maturity, unselfishness, and honesty that most can't handle. She can do, what he can do. It's a fair and even type exchange, not he does whatever and she can't.
There are also variations of open relationships and open-marriages, and these are NOT just swingers, where the husband/boyfriend or wife/girlfriend let's the other indulge more sexually. This can work, where there is an honest exchange, and it's acknowledged one is sexually stronger than the other or simply OK with the other having more fun on the side.
Examples:
1) Husband is rich or very good job and takes great care of the wife economically, and she wants to keep the relationship.
However her sexual level is ADMITTEDLY much lower than his, and she knows it.
She may openly allow him to have mistresses. In many cases that I've seen, they may also have kids, so she is overly focused on the role of housewife and mother, but not lover. Him having sex-friends means she doesn't or rarely has to do sex, and she is fine with that.
2) Cuckhold Husband or Nympho/Hyper-Sexual Wife
In this case the husband is sexually weaker, where the wife is very much sexually stronger.
They are perfectly fine with the relationship, minus the sexual imbalance. Therefore the husband brings men to satisfy his wife. They are open and honest with each other and their needs, and the husband is very voyeuristic in nature and enjoys the game that they play.