For those reasons, I would like to ask you 2 different thing mostly: which sites/online places would you recomend me - knowing that I don't speak Japanese (I know..it limits the options a LOT) and second...
Hi Chris and here are my opinions about this...
Years ago, various Japanese women would come by themselves to the club from different prefectures, outside the city, or different parts of the city. This way was more anonymous, and the women could meet guys for sex if they wanted to. These days single Japanese females going to clubs appeared to be bullied by other women or questioned for being alone. Thus pressured to come with girlfriends, creating group pressures and pressure to pretend to be not sexual or "virgin-like prudish goody goody" girls. This goes to the casual sex and slut shaming issues many women have or are overly worried what other people or friends might think.
A lot of those "single" women looking for casual sex hook-ups have been replaced with online dating. However, it's not like a 1 to 1 swap from clubs to online. Online dating has numerous different issues involved.
Many Japanese women are now aware of online international dating websites, so if interested in foreign guys, can put up a profile among the below sites:
Tinder
Facebook (Tinder more anonymous)
OkCupid
POF (Plenty of Fish)
Match
Japan Cupid
AdultFriendFinder (better for swingers)
FriendsInJapan
Japan Guide, PenFriend
InterPals
Metropolis
Craigslist (but a bit shady, more for swingers)
Note 1- With Japan Guide PenFriends you have to be careful, as you can be reported (to include women sneak reporting after meeting you) and your account deleted for obvious dating attempts. So you have to play that game carefully and it may take 2 or 3 dates. However, you can instead join FriendsInJapan to avoid the bullshit cloak and dagger games. Interpals and Metropolis (classified ad format) allows for both language exchange and dating.
Note 2- Craigslist and AdulFriendFinder are a mixed bag and difficult for single heterosexual males looking for women, and are the most unpredictable. It can be better if you are comfortable as a male stud for swinger and cuckold couples. In this scenario, there are couples that want men who are more muscular, of a different race, and/or have a larger penis than average to have sex with wives or girlfriends. It's totally heterosexual sex, unless specified differently. In Craigslist, this is under mw4m. A guy can become quite popular on Craigslist or AFF, if he has the right physical build, and asked to bang many wives or get into swinger parties from that angle.
Online VS Direct Approach
I prefer talking to women via direct approach more than online dating, because it bypasses a lot of tomfoolery. There are lots of fake profiles, scammers, crazies, and liars that will waste your time online.
Also, some Japanese women will have a profile, but appear to not quite understand the purpose of the website, be very pretentious, or lie about why they are on the website. To include she is hypergamously running through lots of guys on the website, with the "grass is always greener on the other side of the fence" mentality... Jumping to the next guy, thinking he will be better, versus creating stable relationships or giving relationships a chance.
how is the general reaction when you aboard girls in the street?
I'm thinking your question is, "What is the reaction women give when you approach and talk to them on the street?"
I use a bit different approach than many PUAs. I talk to women that are loitering in a place or sitting, versus chasing down moving targets on the "street". I approach women in a way that's comfortable and safe for many of them.
So I would talk to women while we are standing parallel at a bus stop or on the platform waiting for the train, or sitting in a cafe, fast food restaurant, bus, train, etc... In this way, standing or sitting parallel to the women, it's a more comfortable way to start conversations. I rarely ever get hard "blow outs" (strong rejection), though it does happen occasionally by oddly and excessively mean women at times. Usually we can have a bit of conversation. I've become very smooth at starting conversations, through lots of practice and approaches.
At my favorite spots, in conversations I get into, I can exchange contact info 50% of the time. But this is quite a high average that came up gradually over time. YEARS! It's also more a combination of identifying women that have a good vibe and mood, finding very good locations (which can be difficult and take time, or trial and error), and conversational skills. A guy just starting direct approaches should NOT expect such a high success rate. In fact, don't worry if it's LOW at first, have FUN trying and improving.
Newbie PUAs types tend to be afraid of rejection and get too nervous. Instead of admitting this cowardice to themselves, they tend to rationalize and make excuses for it, thus talk themselves out of approaching. So no matter what, push yourself to approach and eliminate your fear of rejection. Once you have done this, then the internal emotion is more you being choosy and picking the right opportunity. I tend to choose women that have a positive and/or happy energy about them, in addition to me being attracted to them.
As a rule of thumb, I set my approaches at 9 per hour and focus on getting 3 contacts in that hour. The key is contacts and not just approaches, so if I made only 6 approaches, but got 3 contacts then I have done well.
In this mindset, the reaction of the woman isn't as relevant, as meeting the self imposed quota per hour. However, most reactions of the women I meet are polite (as I'm very polite) or positive, because of the way in which I approached them. You don't want to act weird, nervous, or creepy because women can return that negative energy. My energy and vibe is polite, positive (don't forget to smile), and curious. So, I often get that back from women in return.
