Here is something relevant I posted in a similar discussion on a private US board last month:
"However it is also wrong in an important way (at least ime) because it omits the one HUGE difference between conventional escorting/p4p and sugaring for the majority, large majority I think, of SBs on SA. Namely, as an SB they can and do decide to see or not see SDs for whatever reason they please even if he is able and willing to meet their financial goals. In principle of course, escorts can refuse customers too, but in practice they typically only reject them if they are really disagreeable for some reason. By contrast, SBs tend to choose the SDs they will see out of a pool of willing guys based on who they like the most. Basically they treat sugaring in much the same way that they treat dating, with the money as an added incentive to be a bit more open minded and willing to compromise than they would be in conventional dating situations. Lots of SBs state explicit criteria in their profiles. Typical examples include not being willing to see guys who are married (like me), who are over a certain age (like me), who are chubby (like me), who are not college grads, who won't travel with them, who smoke, who aren't into certain hobbies (usually like me), who won't take them shopping, who don't dress well (like me), who do/don't drink, who do drugs, who won't be exclusive (like me), who are bald (like me), who voted for Trump or whoever, who are not fans of X team...on and on. And even those who don't post such explicit criteria often have them and reveal them when you meet or are in correspondence. Imo this is quite a different dynamic and experience for women than the mostly just having sex with guys to earn some money one you described. And for me at least, this is a big part of the attraction of sugaring.
People have said that p4p is like buying a fish, while np4p is like fishing. Sugaring is sort of like fishing in a moderately stocked pond; success in getting something for dinner is easier to achieve but is definitely not a foregone conclusion."
You certainly won't find many, if any, conventional escorts who have lists of criteria for an acceptable customer such as the examples I list in the first paragraph of the above quote.
Another way of saying this is that escorting is a buyers market; men decide whom they want to see and pay. Sugaring is a seller's market; women decide whom they will see and whose money they will accept. That is a vast difference imo.
Of course the above really refers to the opposite iconic ends of what in reality is a spectrum. Some escorting is a lot more like classic sugaring and some sugaring more like classic escorting, but imo and ime they are definitely not the same thing.
-Ww
