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[AtaruMoroboshiFanboy]

Hello everyone at TAG!

I've hit my quarter-life and I still haven't been able to get any experience let alone a date. Losing all the weight, going to the gym, updating my wardrobe and style didn't change anything. I pretty much mentally snapped and spontaneously decided on going to Japan. I'll be traveling to Japan at the end of August.

My main goal for this trip is to gauge living in Japan and get experience.

I'll pretty much just be hitting up the soaplands and independent escorts for the two weeks I'll be there. Besides that, I'm going to explore as much as I can of the areas around the Yamanote Line and eat delicious Japanese food. I also haven't ever drank before in my life, but I'll be changing that too this trip.

I'm also going to be checking out the nightlife and whatever places there are for meeting women. Not really nampa, but just talking in general. I want to see how Japanese people respond to me, but more importantly, I want to see if it's possible for me to have an actual chance at dating in Japan. Last thing I want is to move to Japan and still struggle to get even a date... it'd be way worse then my current situation.

On a side note, I have 6ish years of self-studied Japanese under my belt, but I've only really focused on kanji and reading (not even much writing). I'm going to have to hard focus on listening and speaking.

Lastly, I wanted to say thanks to you for this website and to every contributor. If it wasn't for the invaluable resources, guides, and reviews I'd have no idea what to do. Also, sorry for how lengthy this post is!

ギャルが最高です！

 

[appleas]

Welcome, I hope you have a great time in Japan. If you happen to know anyone from Japan, drop them a text to have a meal together.

Don’t be afraid to converse in Japanese, you might be surprised at how much you can understand and communicate. Have fun!

 

[chun011980]

Too bad that you have so much hope for Japan, otherwise, all of your wishes could be easily fullfiled, or even exceed in the adult paradise, which is Thailand.

Hope you have a great time in Japan anyway.

 

[Durg50]

Why do you think Japan will be any different to wherever you are now?

Why can you drink here but not your home?

Why would indies and soaps help you?

You want to see ‘how japanese people respond to you’… wtf does that mean? Probably the same as any other country ie it depends on the fucking person.

Dont be a weirdo dude. If you wanna come here and fuck, come here and fuck, eat the food, drink the drinks, do whatever you want.

Also if you wanna hit soaps and indies up, i hope you are on significantly higher salary or disposable income than the average 25 year old virgin

 

[YokoMonger]

On a side note, I have 6ish years of self-studied Japanese under my belt, but I've only really focused on kanji and reading (not even much writing). I'm going to have to hard focus on listening and speaking.

The reading will help, but yeah, gotta get comfortable with understanding what the staff and providers say to really cash in the golden ticket that knowing Japanese gives you in this game.

 

[Danbo]

I'm also going to be checking out the nightlife and whatever places there are for meeting women. Not really nampa, but just talking in general. I want to see how Japanese people respond to me, but more importantly, I want to see if it's possible for me to have an actual chance at dating in Japan. Last thing I want is to move to Japan and still struggle to get even a date... it'd be way worse then my current situation.

This sounds a bit like the usual delusion that people think they maybe didn't succeed in their home country but in Japan it will somehow be better. How people respond to you is more connected to your personality and behavior than the location. If you are socially awkward at home, you will be socially awkward in Japan.

Yeah, nightlife here can be fun...but girls won't crowd around you just because you are a foreigner. Especially in Tokyo nobody cares...

Have fun here for the first time. Enjoy the food, experience a few soaplands....just don't come here with the wrong expectations to get disappointed.

 

[SugoiBoy]

The Japan of Western imagination especially Western male imagination is different from the real Japan. There certainly is a lot to see and do in Japan, but you might wish to lower your expectations.

Back when I was in high school I took French as a foreign language. At the time I had somewhat romantic ideas of what Paris would be like. Naive visions of hanging out in Parisian cafes and that sort of thing.

Several years later I finally visited France. Paris was okay to a certain extent, but the city didn’t live up to all my dreams. Frankly, it struck me as being a bit like New York City. True, I didn’t bother to explore France beyond Paris.

After Paris I headed for Spain. Despite never having formally studied Spanish, I ended up enjoying Spain more than France. The climate was milder. The people seemed friendlier. It was less expensive at least at that time. The morale of this little story is that overseas travel can be both disappointing and surprising.

If you really just want to have sex with Asians, then, as was pointed out earlier, Thailand would be a better choice and a more affordable P4P destination. Thailand also has various things to check out besides the nightlife.

Perhaps you could visit both Japan and Thailand?

 

[AtaruMoroboshiFanboy]

Hello everyone!

Ya, I can easily afford the trip. I could go right now and be fine.

That is pretty much why I mentally snapped. The whole no experience thing is the biggest hole in my life. When it comes to everything else, I'm decently set. I'm for sure in a way better position than most 25 year olds.

I just never had any interest in drinking. I've seen people destroy their lives from it. However, the fact that I spontaneously decided to go to Japan just for P4P says to me it is time to give in.

I'm for sure over hyping the trip, but it's not like I'm commited to moving there or something. I'll go there, enjoy my time, be disappointed, and come back to reflect. The big thing is I won't have the 25 year old virgin thing weighing on my mind.

I'm not really that interested in Thailand. There are things I want to do in Japan besides P4P.

We'll see how much I can improve my speaking by the end of August. At least I'm not starting from scratch.

 

[Macdaddy434]

Hello everyone!

Ya, I can easily afford the trip. I could go right now and be fine.

That is pretty much why I mentally snapped. The whole no experience thing is the biggest hole in my life. When it comes to everything else, I'm decently set. I'm for sure in a way better position than most 25 year olds.

I just never had any interest in drinking. I've seen people destroy their lives from it. However, the fact that I spontaneously decided to go to Japan just for P4P says to me it is time to give in.

I'm for sure over hyping the trip, but it's not like I'm commited to moving there or something. I'll go there, enjoy my time, be disappointed, and come back to reflect. The big thing is I won't have the 25 year old virgin thing weighing on my mind.

I'm not really that interested in Thailand. There are things I want to do in Japan besides P4P.

We'll see how much I can improve my speaking by the end of August. At least I'm not starting from scratch.

頑張ってね!

 

[BeerMadness]

Despite never having formally studied Spanish, I ended up enjoying Spain more than France. The climate was milder. The people seemed friendlier. It was less expensive at least at that time.

Spain really is great. I got to go just before COVID hit due to work and had zero expectations. If I could eat Iberian ham with tomato on fresh crusty bread for breakfast for the rest of my life I would. Pintxos bars are great as well. Getting a siesta every day to nap.... Lovely place.

 

[Tabanico]

Hope you have fun OP.

Sometimes overhyping works because it helps you see the upside of everything. If you have any disappointments just remind yourself that you're in Japan and it's fucking amazing.

 

[Keihan]

Hello everyone at TAG!

I've hit my quarter-life and I still haven't been able to get any experience let alone a date. Losing all the weight, going to the gym, updating my wardrobe and style didn't change anything. I pretty much mentally snapped and spontaneously decided on going to Japan. I'll be traveling to Japan at the end of August.

My main goal for this trip is to gauge living in Japan and get experience.

I'll pretty much just be hitting up the soaplands and independent escorts for the two weeks I'll be there. Besides that, I'm going to explore as much as I can of the areas around the Yamanote Line and eat delicious Japanese food. I also haven't ever drank before in my life, but I'll be changing that too this trip.

I'm also going to be checking out the nightlife and whatever places there are for meeting women. Not really nampa, but just talking in general. I want to see how Japanese people respond to me, but more importantly, I want to see if it's possible for me to have an actual chance at dating in Japan. Last thing I want is to move to Japan and still struggle to get even a date... it'd be way worse then my current situation.

On a side note, I have 6ish years of self-studied Japanese under my belt, but I've only really focused on kanji and reading (not even much writing). I'm going to have to hard focus on listening and speaking.

Lastly, I wanted to say thanks to you for this website and to every contributor. If it wasn't for the invaluable resources, guides, and reviews I'd have no idea what to do. Also, sorry for how lengthy this post is!

ギャルが最高です！

Another victim of that globally-perpetuated fantasy that draws so many losers to Japan.

OP, you can't get laid, can't get any attention from females, can't even get a date back home and you're a grown man. So, your solution is to up and move to a country you've never been to, don't understand, don't speak the language of and have zero familiarity with and you think that's going to make everything better?? On top of that, not only are you going to attempt communicating with females for the first time in your life in a foreign country you know nothing about, you're also going to try sipping your very first alcoholic drink while you're at it? You do understand what a monumental fucking disaster you're setting yourself up for?

Get this through your head: The problem isn't your country, your culture, your peers (if you have any) and especially not women back home. The problem is YOU. And despite what you've been taught from idiot fucking losers on Youtube and/or social media, Japanese women are not going to be any easier to score with than any other women from any other country on earth, because women are women and if you've managed to make it 25 years without convincing even one female to hold your hand or tickle your nutsack then a change of area code isn't going to change anything.

It's been suggested above and it bears consideration--cancel your trip and go somewhere more accommodating, like Bangkok or, even better, the P.I. Somewhere the girls are so impoverished and desperate that they'll happily pretend they have no problem with your awkwardness and creepiness, pit-stained manga t-shirts in the disgusting August heat, fanny pack, knee-high socks, velcro shoes and pocket Kama Sutra book on sexual positions that you read on the train while looking desperately at the high school girls sitting across you in the car.

And I'm not saying this to be mean. I'm saying this to do you a favor. If you've never had a drink before, do NOT try it in a foreign country. If you have zero experience with women, do NOT try hitting up P4P in a foreign country like Japan. And because I'm almost positive you're an American (or possibly Canadian, but it's almost always Americans loser weirdo virgins showing up in Japan) go out and pick up a six-pack of Miller High Life or Bud Light, get a good buzz on then stop by the nearest Greyhound Station and try your luck on the runaways there. Can't get any easier. Work on your game. Get your "Dahmer" on. Not going to find a better "judgment-free zone."

The bottom line is you're in your mid-20s and you have zero experience with females. That's going to throw up a LOT of warning signs with any normal, prudent, competent female in any first-world country. You can either invest in GHB and embark on a new career as a serial rapist or go somewhere where women are poor and desperate enough that they'll overlook the fact and warning signs that you're 25 and have zero experience with females. That is NOT Japan.

On a side note, someone should warn immigration about this guy.

 

[Kuromi]

OP, don't get discouraged from reading some of the veteran's answers to the topic, that is their way of "protecting" you because actually they care about people and they actually want to help and be nice, just don't know how to convey it more softly lol.

Apply common sense with everything , you can totally start drinking in Japan, but do not get wasted on the first day and start gradually. You can totally get approached in party settings but because this is Japan just dont expect it, as it is kind of tricky. Also, i find it more interesting to see the "reaction" thing more as a "how i am going to react to them" instead. You will have some fun situations and some confusing ones too.

For the P4P, starting with an indie is the best possible way. For example if you book Manami, you can speak a little bit in japanese with her to try and practice, but also change to english when things require perfect communication during the session, also, it will be nice as a first peek into the love hotel experience i guess.

The best possible way of coming is by having your cup empty of expectations of any type, bad or good ones, and filled with humility, and start exploring and researching everything. If you go with the mindset of "i will get disappointed", it will happen, and if you overhype it, you will get disappointed because you cannot control how the experience will go.

Dont be so hard on yourself, you are not a loser, you are a human being and there is no set rythm for everyone to follow. I started drinking later than most of my friends because i needed just to choose my timing to do so.

 

[MrDuBois]

That is pretty much why I mentally snapped. The whole no experience thing is the biggest hole in my life. When it comes to everything else, I'm decently set. I'm for sure in a way better position than most 25 year olds.

You basically sound like me at 30. I don't know how well you do socially outside the whole dating women thing but if you're like me and you can socialise without stuttering around all the time, you'll be fine.

I wish I had done what I've done last year and what you're about to do when I was 25 and not 30.

 

[Fumisancho79]

Hello everyone at TAG!

I've hit my quarter-life and I still haven't been able to get any experience let alone a date. Losing all the weight, going to the gym, updating my wardrobe and style didn't change anything. I pretty much mentally snapped and spontaneously decided on going to Japan. I'll be traveling to Japan at the end of August.

My main goal for this trip is to gauge living in Japan and get experience.

I'll pretty much just be hitting up the soaplands and independent escorts for the two weeks I'll be there. Besides that, I'm going to explore as much as I can of the areas around the Yamanote Line and eat delicious Japanese food. I also haven't ever drank before in my life, but I'll be changing that too this trip.

I'm also going to be checking out the nightlife and whatever places there are for meeting women. Not really nampa, but just talking in general. I want to see how Japanese people respond to me, but more importantly, I want to see if it's possible for me to have an actual chance at dating in Japan. Last thing I want is to move to Japan and still struggle to get even a date... it'd be way worse then my current situation.

On a side note, I have 6ish years of self-studied Japanese under my belt, but I've only really focused on kanji and reading (not even much writing). I'm going to have to hard focus on listening and speaking.

Lastly, I wanted to say thanks to you for this website and to every contributor. If it wasn't for the invaluable resources, guides, and reviews I'd have no idea what to do. Also, sorry for how lengthy this post is!

ギャルが最高です！

I mean this in a very kind way - have you considered therapy? I'm not sure drinking and mongering are solutions to any of your problems (heck, I'm not even sure they are the solution to anything lol).

 

[Tabanico]

OP: ignore the salty losers on here and just enjoy your time in Japan. I find it amazing that so many people go out of their way to piss on other people's chips. Life's what you make it, not what random strangers on the internet want to make it for you.

 

[Tabanico]

Another victim of that globally-perpetuated fantasy that draws so many losers to Japan.

OP, you can't get laid, can't get any attention from females, can't even get a date back home and you're a grown man. So, your solution is to up and move to a country you've never been to, don't understand, don't speak the language of and have zero familiarity with and you think that's going to make everything better?? On top of that, not only are you going to attempt communicating with females for the first time in your life in a foreign country you know nothing about, you're also going to try sipping your very first alcoholic drink while you're at it? You do understand what a monumental fucking disaster you're setting yourself up for?

Get this through your head: The problem isn't your country, your culture, your peers (if you have any) and especially not women back home. The problem is YOU. And despite what you've been taught from idiot fucking losers on Youtube and/or social media, Japanese women are not going to be any easier to score with than any other women from any other country on earth, because women are women and if you've managed to make it 25 years without convincing even one female to hold your hand or tickle your nutsack then a change of area code isn't going to change anything.

It's been suggested above and it bears consideration--cancel your trip and go somewhere more accommodating, like Bangkok or, even better, the P.I. Somewhere the girls are so impoverished and desperate that they'll happily pretend they have no problem with your awkwardness and creepiness, pit-stained manga t-shirts in the disgusting August heat, fanny pack, knee-high socks, velcro shoes and pocket Kama Sutra book on sexual positions that you read on the train while looking desperately at the high school girls sitting across you in the car.

And I'm not saying this to be mean. I'm saying this to do you a favor. If you've never had a drink before, do NOT try it in a foreign country. If you have zero experience with women, do NOT try hitting up P4P in a foreign country like Japan. And because I'm almost positive you're an American (or possibly Canadian, but it's almost always Americans loser weirdo virgins showing up in Japan) go out and pick up a six-pack of Miller High Life or Bud Light, get a good buzz on then stop by the nearest Greyhound Station and try your luck on the runaways there. Can't get any easier. Work on your game. Get your "Dahmer" on. Not going to find a better "judgment-free zone."

The bottom line is you're in your mid-20s and you have zero experience with females. That's going to throw up a LOT of warning signs with any normal, prudent, competent female in any first-world country. You can either invest in GHB and embark on a new career as a serial rapist or go somewhere where women are poor and desperate enough that they'll overlook the fact and warning signs that you're 25 and have zero experience with females. That is NOT Japan.

On a side note, someone should warn immigration about this guy.

What on earth is wrong with you?

 

[Cinnabums]

What on earth is wrong with you?

His reply says more about him than OP.

I do enjoy his salty rants though but so am I self medicating on Strong Zero❤️

 

[Kuromi]

No joke tho, i would love to meet Keihan and listen to his stories while drinking beer 🤭

 

[Sudsy]

OP, don't get discouraged from reading some of the veteran's answers to the topic, that is their way of "protecting" you because actually they care about people and they actually want to help and be nice, just don't know how to convey it more softly lol.

Apply common sense with everything , you can totally start drinking in Japan, but do not get wasted on the first day and start gradually. You can totally get approached in party settings but because this is Japan just dont expect it, as it is kind of tricky. Also, i find it more interesting to see the "reaction" thing more as a "how i am going to react to them" instead. You will have some fun situations and some confusing ones too.

For the P4P, starting with an indie is the best possible way. For example if you book Manami, you can speak a little bit in japanese with her to try and practice, but also change to english when things require perfect communication during the session, also, it will be nice as a first peek into the love hotel experience i guess.

The best possible way of coming is by having your cup empty of expectations of any type, bad or good ones, and filled with humility, and start exploring and researching everything. If you go with the mindset of "i will get disappointed", it will happen, and if you overhype it, you will get disappointed because you cannot control how the experience will go.

Dont be so hard on yourself, you are not a loser, you are a human being and there is no set rythm for everyone to follow. I started drinking later than most of my friends because i needed just to choose my timing to do so.

This is probably the best post you’ve made in your time on this board. Nice.

 

[Sudsy]

OP: ignore the salty losers on here and just enjoy your time in Japan. I find it amazing that so many people go out of their way to piss on other people's chips. Life's what you make it, not what random strangers on the internet want to make it for you.

One man’s piss is another pervert’s vinegar?

 

[Sudsy]

Another victim of that globally-perpetuated fantasy that draws so many losers to Japan.

OP, you can't get laid, can't get any attention from females, can't even get a date back home and you're a grown man. So, your solution is to up and move to a country you've never been to, don't understand, don't speak the language of and have zero familiarity with and you think that's going to make everything better?? On top of that, not only are you going to attempt communicating with females for the first time in your life in a foreign country you know nothing about, you're also going to try sipping your very first alcoholic drink while you're at it? You do understand what a monumental fucking disaster you're setting yourself up for?

Get this through your head: The problem isn't your country, your culture, your peers (if you have any) and especially not women back home. The problem is YOU. And despite what you've been taught from idiot fucking losers on Youtube and/or social media, Japanese women are not going to be any easier to score with than any other women from any other country on earth, because women are women and if you've managed to make it 25 years without convincing even one female to hold your hand or tickle your nutsack then a change of area code isn't going to change anything.

It's been suggested above and it bears consideration--cancel your trip and go somewhere more accommodating, like Bangkok or, even better, the P.I. Somewhere the girls are so impoverished and desperate that they'll happily pretend they have no problem with your awkwardness and creepiness, pit-stained manga t-shirts in the disgusting August heat, fanny pack, knee-high socks, velcro shoes and pocket Kama Sutra book on sexual positions that you read on the train while looking desperately at the high school girls sitting across you in the car.

And I'm not saying this to be mean. I'm saying this to do you a favor. If you've never had a drink before, do NOT try it in a foreign country. If you have zero experience with women, do NOT try hitting up P4P in a foreign country like Japan. And because I'm almost positive you're an American (or possibly Canadian, but it's almost always Americans loser weirdo virgins showing up in Japan) go out and pick up a six-pack of Miller High Life or Bud Light, get a good buzz on then stop by the nearest Greyhound Station and try your luck on the runaways there. Can't get any easier. Work on your game. Get your "Dahmer" on. Not going to find a better "judgment-free zone."

The bottom line is you're in your mid-20s and you have zero experience with females. That's going to throw up a LOT of warning signs with any normal, prudent, competent female in any first-world country. You can either invest in GHB and embark on a new career as a serial rapist or go somewhere where women are poor and desperate enough that they'll overlook the fact and warning signs that you're 25 and have zero experience with females. That is NOT Japan.

On a side note, someone should warn immigration about this guy.

There was a time when you were funny. These days you’re just a bitter piece of shit hurling abuse left and right. Seriously - shut the fuck up.

 

[Alice]

Several years later I finally visited France. Paris was okay to a certain extent, but the city didn’t live up to all my dreams. Frankly, it struck me as being a bit like New York City. True, I didn’t bother to explore France beyond Paris

Sounds like you had Paris Syndrome. 😂

 

[MrDuBois]

Paris is an absolute shithole. But I also never thought it was anything else than that, therefore there were no expectations to be shattered.

Tokyo, however, stays the best city on this planet.

 

[Simonka]

The Japan of Western imagination especially Western male imagination is different from the real Japan. There certainly is a lot to see and do in Japan, but you might wish to lower your expectations.

Back when I was in high school I took French as a foreign language. At the time I had somewhat romantic ideas of what Paris would be like. Naive visions of hanging out in Parisian cafes and that sort of thing.

Several years later I finally visited France. Paris was okay to a certain extent, but the city didn’t live up to all my dreams. Frankly, it struck me as being a bit like New York City. True, I didn’t bother to explore France beyond Paris.

After Paris I headed for Spain. Despite never having formally studied Spanish, I ended up enjoying Spain more than France. The climate was milder. The people seemed friendlier. It was less expensive at least at that time. The morale of this little story is that overseas travel can be both disappointing and surprising.

If you really just want to have sex with Asians, then, as was pointed out earlier, Thailand would be a better choice and a more affordable P4P destination. Thailand also has various things to check out besides the nightlife.

Perhaps you could visit both Japan and Thailand?

Yeah Paris was scary at night with gangs on the street and on daytime I found Parisians to be cold, unfriendly and a bit too sarcastic. Some were rude. I just don’t get the hype. Country side France was much nicer than Paris.