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I think I can significantly sharpen/clarify our point of disagreement on this topic.
I agree with all that you say in the above quote and have said the same thing in my previous posts in this thread. That SWs will have their feelings hurt by criticism of their bodies and will have to deal with it is indeed a "fact of life" (though an unfortunate one imo). However, my strong disagreement begins with what *appears* to be your conclusion that this fact removes any obligation others might have to be considerate of their feelings when discussing their bodies. My conclusion, and I think also @hkAlone 's, is that this "fact of life" implies that we should be more considerate of their feelings, not less. In other words, they have it hard (in this regard), let's do all we can to make it easier for them rather than "piling on" and making it harder.
I find it very hard to understand the logic that leads to your (apparent) conclusion and very much doubt that you would apply the same logic in other contexts. For example, you mentioned that you are often subject to unfair criticism that you find hurtful (but deal with) in your work. Would you conclude that if we were to encounter each other in some professional context in which I could reasonably be expected to criticize your work that I should not feel obligated to be fair? My conclusion would be rather that I should try especially hard to be fair.
And one can go reductio ad absurdum for this sort of logic. Someone who chooses a career in the military or in law enforcement has to accept and deal with the "fact of life" that sometimes other people will try to harm or kill him/her. Does this make trying to harm or kill him/her any less wrong? Or one could say that it is a "fact of life" that a black or latino living in the US will encounter and have to deal with racial bias and discrimination, but I doubt that you would conclude that this makes treating such people in a racist way any more acceptable. In fact, I'd guess that you would agree with me that it makes it less acceptable, if anything.
Of course, and it is a good thing indeed, but even if "name-calling, personal attacks ..." were to take place, I would not take it personally or be particularly hurt. Those things are a simple "fact of life" in internet discussions. If you are going to participate in discussion threads on almost any internet forum, you can expect to see and receive some of that. It is simply another unfortunate "fact of life", but of course that truth does not make "name-calling, personal attacks ..." any better or more acceptable behavior, at least not imo.
-Ww
My friend, you make your points with clarity and sound logic.
I just have one more response to your posts-I think.
I am not sure why I became the villain in this whole fiasco. I never made a personal attack on anyone. I told a little joke that some found funny and others found offensive. Hey, that's the nature of humor.
Humor is reason gone mad. Groucho Marx
It is a curious fact that people are never so trivial as when they take themselves seriously. Oscar Wilde
Humor is merely tragedy standing on its head with its pants torn. Irvin S. Cobb
Humor is perhaps a sense of intellectual perspective: an awareness that some things are really important, others not; and that the two kinds are most oddly jumbled in everyday affairs. Christopher Morley
Humor is just another defense against the universe. Mel Brooks
Humor is everywhere, in that there's irony in just about anything a human does. Bill Nye
Humor is a double-edged sword. It can be sharp and cutting or it can fall flat. A Roots Reggae Original
As I've stated before in this thread,
"Comments made on TAG have a primarily "monger" audience. That thread was definitely so, as was the plump AV star thread.
And audience is one of the factors when considering word tone, choice, and content.
Comments are not directed, for the most part, towards the Sex Worker, SW, on TAG. If the thread was a more general one, directed at both men and women, of course, the tone, word choice, and content would have been different."
I challenge anyone to find even one instance on this board when I have been directly (or indirectly, the 3P being a area of contention) cruel or unfair to even one of our TAG ladies. To the contrary, I have been empathetic, supportive, and even admiring of each and every one of these fine ladies. I might add, and fact I am, that this cannot be said of the some interactions of the ladies among themselves.
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