Wwanderer
Kids, don't try this at home!
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was speaking for myself. I will not be running to the next best escort.
Obviously I have no quarrel at all with such a personal decision. Many, maybe even most, people are never involved in p4p in any form at all and have perfectly fine lives. It is not a something "no one should miss". Also obviously no one should do something as recreation if it makes them personally so fearful or otherwise uncomfortable that they don't enjoy it. All of us have imperfect control over our fears at best; if p4p and STDs in general scare you so much that you prefer celibacy, there may be nothing you can (easily) do about it. In that sense, you have my sympathy.
However, I will dispute blatantly false claims such as these:
Sooner or later this mixing of secretions is going to lead to something that I don't want.
The dangers are so great now that mongering of any type is actually suicide.
which you make, apparently to rationalize your fears. If those statements were true, I'd also be advising people to avoid p4p, but they simply aren't. Almost all mongers and sex workers eventually die of causes other than STDs and mostly of causes unrelated to sex work (namely of the same things that kill people not involved in p4p). So, it isn't "actually suicide"...just isn't. Similarly, lots and lots of active mongers and long term sex workers who behave with reasonable care never contract any serious (incurable) STD and many never get any STD at all. In fact I am one of the latter group after more than 40 years of mongering (with lots of BBBJs and some BBFS too)...much longer than most guys stay active in p4p. So, it is not actually a "sooner or later" thing at all in reality.
on the other hand, can you say that it is 100 percent safe to do P4P?
100 percent safe??? No, of course it isn't 100 percent safe; that would be an insane claim. Neither is getting out of bed or eating a meal or walking down the street (much less up/down a flight of stairs) or having a drink etc. Could you name *any* even mildly interesting life activity that is "100 percent safe"? Again, valar morghulis... *My* personal view is that I fear missing great experiences in life more than I fear my life's inevitable end from one cause or another.
-Ww
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