So.. I would REALLY appreciate others experiences? have you been able to meet otona 3 man girls who actually look like their pic?
The short answer for me is yes, but never someone who offered to go to a hotel on the first meeting. It happened once or twice with people I invited to a hotel after actually meeting them, and there is one other girl I still see who was apparently waiting for the invitation but I didn’t as until the second time I saw her.
Almost universally, girls who offer or insist on going to a hotel the first time are dispatch workers like the situation you described. They don’t really care what you look like (no one expects you to be a K-pop idol but do you meet their minimum standards) or if you’re a total slob or otherwise a weirdo; it’s more of a job for them (which I think is reflected in the conversation you reported). No judgment intended, but if you are looking for a girl who you would have dated in your 20s, you need to put in the time for meet and greets.
BTW, my MO for messages prior is not to mention specific amounts, but make it clear that I am okay to help financially, but that I am not looking for something platonic. If she asks at the message stage for 1 man for meetup money, I will generally ask what her expectations are for the second date and onwards, including amounts. Most girls who balk at this question are just trying to get the 1man out of you for the meet and greet, so I don’t meet people who don’t want to answer but insist on 1man for the meet up. If the girl doesn’t ask for anything, or just asks for 交通費, I will give 1man without being asked, except if she doesn’t look a thing like her photo. After meeting, if I find her attractive and we have good enough chemistry, i will bring up expectations for the next date and amounts (sometimes it happens before saying goodbye, sometimes it’s afterwards). Another way I weed out professionals is that I always ask girls I like to exchange Line and, if she balks or wants to do KakaoTalk instead, I walk. But even if you get her Line, if her nickname is not an actual name but emojis or just one letter, that can be a bad sign. Sometimes of course she may be just trying to keep her real name private from people she met on SD, which I understand and of course do too.