My contribution or distraction.. however you want to look at it..........
True Story:
I dated a sex worker for almost 3 years. She was not 100% up-front about it in the beginning, but I kinda already guessed and it never bothered me. She told me to leave her, I said why and her response was I'm a ""... I replied well, I don't really care how you make your money.. it is up to you. We had an awesome connection, mentally, physically, and for me it was spiritually (not religious) but more of a Karma thing.. really hard to explain. We never lived together, but we would take trips together (Thailand, Korea, Japan) and we would hang out. She would ask advise about business related matters, etc.. She would always say it was not a serious relationship, and that was cool for me. I wanted things to develop naturally. side note: ( I have a flat-mate and it is a contractual obligation between the two of us and one of the items is we do not bring women back to our flat. This is also a revenue stream for me.) Long-story short... one time when she was in Japan to visit me she said I wanna see where you live. I said, I will show you the building, but I will not take you up to the flat. I reminded her of the rule and contractual obligation. She demanded.. I said no.. we left the building and went back to our hotel, where she felt the need to unload on me about how unfair it was, and I was a liar, and I was just using her for sex...blah,blah,blah (not minimizing her feelings) When she was done, I said do you feel better or worse for what you have said to me ? She didn't reply. I advised that I never hid the fact about my flat arrangement, but I was not going to jeopardize revenue to make her feel better, especially since this was not a "serious" relationship. I left the hotel room and slept at another location. I went to pick her up the next morning to take the train to the airport. She had not slept at all, and said she was sorry and we should have spent our last night together. I said, well, you were too angry to try and have a rational conversation, I tried to talk, but you didn't want any part of it.. so it was best that I left. She then said, can I trust you ? I replied I've always been straight with you. It's too difficult to be a habitual liar, because you have to remember the lies... I said, only you can answer your question if you can trust me or not. trust is built between two people through actions and words, but I believe, actions that follow words...ie: saying I will do something and doing it. Also, I tend to treat people the way I want to be treated... So, we went a few months with no communication (in past it was multiple msgs daily), until recently... she msg me and said that she missed me... I said, why the change ? she said she didn't know. I said, you finally over your anger/hurt feelings ? She said yes, that I know her too well. My response was, what I know about her has never changed. Will see what the future holds.... She is a Libra - stubborn and proud LOL
When I met her she was a server in a bar, she finished her University, she did a 3 month overseas internship, and returned to Thailand. I've always heard and been told... Never get with a Thai Bar Girl... I understand the logic and reasons for this and many guys/women have had their lives turned upside down because of it. But I think those are just people using each other. I mean every relationship we are in is Voluntary...otherwise we are not in relationships - if one side feels like they are being taken advantage of, then it is up to them to stop or allow it IMO.
I also have a friend in Tokyo who is a SW, she says she has no friends outside of me.. I said because you use people and when you are done you have no need for them anymore, or if you feel they have wronged you, then you cut them off... This is not how you treat true friends... True Friendships, for me, are no matter what the issue, you can call them and they will be there to help - no matter what it is. This is my own definition, but may some share it as well. This friend just doesn't seem to get what a friend is... she never gives, but always takes... I think that is her true nature, because that is how her mother treated her. Anyway - that may be for another post.
In summary.... I think that if 2 people care about each other, are open with each other and not judgmental and secure enough with themselves to thwart jealousy, then it is quite possible to date, live with, and marry a SW. Relationships are hard work as we all know.. some of us are better at them then others... When we step back and look at some of our best relationships and worst... it comes down to communication, our own insecurities and self worth on both sides as well as many other reasons......
Apologies for this being so long..
Feel free to comment... I would interested to hear other's opinions...