TokyoJoeblow
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I'm again struck by a certain suspicious if not dangerous sense of unreality stemming from some of the advice proffered here.
My first time back in a Starbucks since the summer, after having a very nice chat with a 19-year-old which nonetheless ended with her declining a venue change (on terms I had any use for at least) and me leaving the establishment for pastures greener, I was accosted by the young and quite pretty assistant store manager, who proceeded to tell me I was not allowed to talk to other customers as somebody had apparently seen me do this and sent the store some kind of written complaint about someone talking to people he did not know, and how the disturbing prospect of this happening to them was damaging to the establishment's atmosphere - Japan is simply "still not used to" the prospect of inter-stranger communication, she apologised.
She also mentioned she had witnessed poor reactions to pickup in one of their Shinjuku stores (but none in mine, perhaps as I am the only one doing it around here...) and that they too had similar rules against the evils of men talking to unfamiliar women, claiming that my non-Japaneseness had nothing to do with it either. Apparently it was not one of the girls I spoke to, either, but some interfering busybody.
Whilst defending my position whilst hitting on the manager would have been the best course of action I feel, having just failed with the last girl I was more interested in getting on with matters and could only concede whilst I in no way agreed with any of what she was saying, I wasn't going to either protest or go in there again no matter how "welcome" I was to silently sit next to their girls.
And, no, I never got harshly blown out or involved in any kind of scene, knowingly talked to a minor or continued talking to anyone who showed absolutely no interest, and the manager herself conceded she had seen girls I was with enjoying our conversations. In total I only - as discretely as possible - approached 10-20 girls in this venue over a span of some weeks or months. I've no idea if I've been barred from the other stores in the area and no desire to check by going in them, but if a few letters were sent out it would not seem improbable.
Are you people living in some kind of alternative Tokyo where none of this stuff happens? How on earth could you approach nine girls in a hour in a coffee shop and not have someone notice and toss you out? Or bounce around approaching in a bar or station without staff ever batting an eye? Do you never go to the same place twice or something?
Otherwise, it's an ultimately pointless passive aggressive Japanese-style cockblocking anecdote which simply underscores approaching en masse in shops is not a terribly workable way of meeting women.
In any case, I already succumbed to the dubious lure of Sinapse's position and started tentatively trying my hand at getting ignored by scores of impassive women in the street, although the cold and ubiquity of earphones and surgical masks is not helping matters.
I often wear headphones and a surgical mask to avoid getting sick. Unlike me, most of these women are indeed just pretending to listen to music...pretty insecure and retarded.
I never try to nampa women like this. It is a total waste of time 99.99% of the time.
Just walk by and give them the evil eye or tell them the music you are listening to is better than theirs lol.