I guess most Japanese are raised in cold affection.
We don't have kissing, hug culture, we are pessimistic, we scold kids, when joking they look down on their kids, 何やってるんだよ〜、それだからダメなんだよー、those phrases we hear pretty often, when we are raised. But surprisingly, that comes from their affection.
It's very different from other countries that hug kids, kiss kids, encourage kids greatly, when they do good at school. It's all "normal" as 当たり前 fact, and parents wouldn't show much, unless you have a very bad score.
So,I guess, that's why majority of Japanese ladies want to have western bfs or non Japanese men with receiving lots of affection, get married, but once honeymoon ends and have kids in their family, complaint and scolding occurs alot, and not much showing affection.
They are raised seeing their parents as a model parents, and wife makes her husband tea, and hus wouldn't say "Thanx". Most things done so quietly. Well, that's more of very old fashioned style. If she was raised in happy, giggly family, she'll be like that when she gets married and raise a family.
It's sad. But, that's a reality. Guyz don't notice it, when they are in love.
At least, we shouldn't forget the gratitude, as many of you mentioned. Because you're there for me, everything goes right. I feel protected alot. How could I be happier! You're an amazing husband! Thank you so much, darling!!!
My male cat shows that to me. (´∀｀*)
I wish I could say that to a man, oneday in the future...or my next life! (´∀｀*)
You can't change your partner. If you want her to change, you're the one to accept her and try to find good in her. Find good game! Maybe is the key for better home.
Couldn't sleep...just wanted to say things from Japanese prospective, when being raised.
Thanks for reading.
