I definitely do not believe that PUA guys are losers who cannot make a living etc.
If that's true then...
The way I'd take that metaphor is that PUA is learning to fish for oneself, and the mongering route is to get an education and/or useful skills, a work-ethic, a good job etc that put you in a position to always be able to eat fish or beef or chicken or whatever food you wish...as well as do many things beyond feeding yourself. It is a lot more efficient and flexible than trying to learn not only how to fish but also how to raise steers and chickens plus how to cook them etc.
Why do you say this? You are basically saying PUA is learning to fish for yourself (get girls on your own power) vs mongering which is getting a good job and education/skills. This argument is so flawed it's hard to take it seriously.. there's absolutely nothing about visiting a prostitute that would equate it with having any of those things you said - education, useful skills, work-ethic, or a good job. Any of those things could just as equally apply to a PUA. SOME guys who visit prostitutes have their lives handled. Similarly SOME PUAs have their lives handled. The difference I'm referring to is
mindset. Do you have a growth mindset or a fixed mindset? If you are getting into pickup, you are FORCED to develop a growth mindset and take control of your life through ruthlessly examining, weeding out, and improving your own beliefs, actions, and habits. When you "monger," there is no effort required besides giving money over. The guy going to a monger might also have a growth mindset, but it's not required.
Notice the yellow column. These are the indicators of a "losing" mindset that thinks everything in life is pretty much fixed, that their social position, the women they get, the money they earn, etc, are ALL relatively unchangeable. They get mad at millionaires for "stepping on those below" and blame other people for their problems rather than take responsibility. They think because of X or Y that they will never get girls.
The PUA is FORCED to adopt the green growth mindset. This is one of the major benefits of PUA. As I've mentioned before, PUA is a
discipline - a study requiring time, reflection, action, and change in the person who undertakes it. Mongering is a hobby or luxury activity, requiring no change at all to achieve.
Again, this isn't to say that all guys who go mongering are in a fixed mindset, or are worse off or anything. It simply is to point out the difference - one is learning a skill, the other is partaking in a leisure activity. Nothing inherently wrong with either, indeed they address different goals.
It appears to me (I could be wrong) that you end up misleading a lot of women who are looking for a long term or serious relationship about your intentions/availability...and thus end up disappointing them and perhaps hurting (emotionally) many of them. I could be wrong, but I imagine that when you are out doing a string of cold street approaches you don't tell each woman that she is just one of the many attractive women you plan to hit on that day. Don't you lead her to believe, by omission if not by outright deceit, that you are particularly interested in her specifically?
This point is a common one and it contains a very subtle form of sexism, so subtle it often goes unnoticed. Basically this falls into the argument of "women are easily deceived / cannot make decisions for themselves, and thus need to be cared after by men/society at large lest they get themselves into bad situations." In this case, your way of "taking care of women" is to level this criticism at PUAs. In return, I would offer that women are
rarely unclear of the situation. Often times they will ask deliberately "Why did you nampa me?" Other girls literally tell you "Ganbatte" and then wait for your best game. Very rarely are girls deluded about why you talked to them or what you're doing (in fact, the honesty helps you!). On top of that, regardless of how men and women meet, it's a bit dishonest for EITHER party to assume from day 1 that this will be a long-term relationship at all. I can speak volumes from personal experience (and I'm sure everyone else can too) that women will run for the hills if you get too clingy and start talking about being her boyfriend when you still hardly know her. There is a subtle monogamy-reinforcing aspect to your criticism that assumes that a BF-GF relationship is all a women would ever want.
Additionally, you underestimate the degree to which women are actively pursuing casual sexual experiences (wasn't one of this site's very own lovely ladies mentioning this very fact earlier?). Nanpa is a service, filling a need for easy, simple, discreet [from the girls' social circle / friends / work] sex. The bored housewife and sex-starved student alike can rejoice in the benevolent nanpa-shi, dispensing high-quality sexual encounters where their classmates and husbands fail to provide! Nobody else needs to know so she won't be seen as a slut, and she can talk with a guy who is, if he's any good at it, better at conversation and understanding her than Taro two cubicles down at work, and probably a lot better in the sack as well. Interestingly, guys who are great, high-value, well-rounded guys are often shocked when girls dip out after one sexual encounter even though the guy wants to keep seeing her. If anything, you'd be surprised how much the tables are turned and it seems like the woman is "taking advantage" of the guy!
Regarding "interested in her specifically" yes, this is important, and if you are NOT interested in her specifically you should probably just let her go. PUAs (the good ones) are in the business of finding
affinity, not finding a wet hole. Unfortunately, you often have to go through many wet holes to determine what your true affinity is. Such is dating life.
Finally, any PUA who has a modicum of empathy, skill, and sanity is always on the market for a special girl when she comes along. As a matter of fact, I have been dating one (yes, only one) girl for the past month and a half or so. I quite like her and we spend a ton of time together, but I never would have had the skill and ability to turn her into my girlfriend without building it from the ground up - with thousands of approaches, thousands of rejections, high hundreds of dates, and hundreds of lays. Put simply - I would have been a lesser version of myself and been unable to keep her if I hadn't been forced to adopt a growth mindset, aggressively target and change my life in all areas (health, career, finance, fashion, communication, confidence, empathy, etc).
In short your criticism (this last one I've quoted) has some major flaws:
1. It assumes women can't make their own decision / the best decision for themselves.
2. It assumes men are always the one seeking to have only one-night stands, and never women, and by corollary:
3. It assumes men are the ones who break off the relationship and hurt the feelings of the other, never the other way around.
4. It assumes a PUA would not choose a girl as his girlfriend if he really liked her.
5. It assumes a PUA doesn't like each girl he dates, for a specific reason.
6. It assumes that the interaction everyone is looking for is a long-term monogamous relationship